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64 What AuDHDers Need
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What do AuDHDers need (beyond the obvious needs all humans have)? And why do those needs matter?
This episode covers some important ones:
- Being able to engage with our interests (in a particular way)
- Executive Function support, without trying to make the hardest things easy or enjoyable
- Autonomy
- True rest
- The narrow path of just enough stimulation
- Processing time
- To be witnessed in just the right way
- Recognition that our needs vary quite a bit day to day
- Coming to terms with disability
- Space and time throughout our self-discovery journey
- Safe enough spaces to explore what it means to be ourself
Links mentioned:
- Executive function test post if you want to ask Qs or share your experience
- Executive Skills Questionnaire Revised (ESQ-R)
- Unmasking Autism book (affiliate link)
Crisis Resources:
- USA-based anonymous crisis chat
- International crisis lines
- Various types of crisis resources in about 10 countries
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