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046 Don't Die
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I almost died two weeks ago. It's easy to miss symptoms when one has low interoception and a high pain tolerance.
Episode is around the difficulties seeking care... and why it's very worth it sometimes!
p.s. episodes are coming out on Saturdays now
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- UK study questioning the oft-quoted statistic about autistic people living 16 years less long than allistic people. TLDR: Autistic people do seem to live less long on average, but as many people are undiagnosed, it's hard to get an accurate number.
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