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034 Monotropism Might Explain Everything with Fergus Murray

Monotropism is a powerful description of a narrowed field of attention and interests that, for many, explains much of the autistic experience. Fergus Murray (they/them) shares about this topic both from personal experience, and as the child of Dinah Murray, one of the people who developed the term and theory.


Healing from neurodivergent burnout requires understanding your monotropic brain and avoiding monotropic split as much as possible. And fun fact, as Fergus points out: in the original validation study, AuDHD people were the most monotropic!


The title reflects both monotropism as an excellent theory about potentially multiple neurodivergences, as well as the tendency of monotropic people to end up seeing connections between diverse fields.


Mentioned in episode:
  1. Fergus's website: oolong.co.uk
  2. Monotropism Questionnaire
  3. Autism and Mental Health free course (free for first 90 days)


Connect with Fergus & learn more about monotropism:

Fergus's LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/0olong

Monotropism: https://monotropism.org


Resources:

  1. Like Your Brain community space
  2. Resources Blog & Contact Form
  3. Transcript Doc
  4. Email Newsletter

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