ADHD Chatter

Alex chats with leading psychologist, Dr Mark Rackley.Expect to learn the signs you're dating a narcissist, the similarities between ADHD and narcissism, and so much more.Topics:00:00 Trailer02:28 A broad question and not yet ADHD specific, but, what is a narcissist and is there a difference between a narcissist and someone with NPD?06:48 Why do you think narcissism is such a big topic in the world at the moment?08:27 Is genuine Narcissism or NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder for audience members) common and if so, why do you think that is?10:10 What does a narcissist need to "survive" and what is it they’re looking for in life (and what are they looking for from people around them)?14:20 How does a narcissist prey on someone and what sort of people are they looking to exploit?16:30 Is covert narcissism different to the more mainstream narcissism we hear about and why is it particularly dangerous?18:21 Are narcissists afraid of being alone and what - in general terms - do you think a narcissist thinks of when they are left alone?20:00 What might the general timeline be for someone dating a narcissist and that dating turning into a serious relationship i.e how might narcissism show itself gradually in a romantic relationship?22:04 What tricks does a narcissist use to keep you on their hook if they see you as part of their "narcissistic supply”?24:05 ADHD Item27:06 Washing machine of woes33:09 Do narcissists know they’re narcissists?34:24 At what point would a narcissist begin to become self-aware that they might indeed have a problem?36:39 I need to voice some worries of my own! I’m on camera, I think I share some of the traits we've been talking about. I don't like being alone. I need praise to rid me of my RSD….do you think I’m a narcissist? How can I tell?!39:48 How can I be sure that my traits are just ADHD and not narcissism?43:09 Are there any other similarities someone with ADHD might have that are typical of a Narcissist, but might not be narcissism?45:07 If someone has an ADHD partner and they are trying to figure out if it's ADHD, or if there is something more sinister at play, what steps can they take to help try to figure it out?47:51 Is there a known cause for narcissism and if not, what do you think might be a factor that perpetuates it?49:18 How to spot a narcissist53:21 Can you ever change a narcissist and is it worth trying?54:05 Can narcissists be successful professionally?57:33 Successful narcissists aside, with the lower rungs of narcissism and perhaps the majority of the narcissistic population that aren't particularly high-functioning CEOs, what can that look like? Or to put it another way, what does the "everyday narcissist" look like?59:40 Is social media causing narcissism, or is it just the perfect tool for someone who already is a narcissist?Follow Dr Mark on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/drmarkrackley/Listen to Dr Mark's podcast 👉 https://open.spotify.com/show/2pQcITHSlR5qNUagV0jEgXThis episode has been produced for entertainment purposes only and is in no way meant to be taken as medical advice or advice in any way.

Shappi Khorsandi explores late ADHD diagnosis and shares many lessons she’s learnt. This episode is painfully relatable, but also full of hope, humour and insight.Shappi is a comedian, author, speaker and advocate for human rights.00:00 Trailer 02:48 When was your earliest memory of feeling different?10:30 You were diagnosed at 47? Why did it take so long for you to receive a diagnosis?14:28 What clicked into place when you heard the words "You have ADHD"?26:44 You have a great analogy about Tarzan and ADHD, can you explain this for our audience?33:05 Being diagnosed with ADHD and being a comedian - the creative comedy mind of which is constantly flipping from thought to thought (and I'm sure the two go hand in hand) - but how did this fluid nature of the way the brain works serve in holding down jobs & relationships?47:52 Moving around a lot when you were younger, changing country, feeling "foreign", facing racism, having ADHD, being shy, that's a lot to deal with for someone who is likely to be emotionally sensitive? What do you think the most testing part of your life has been as far as RSD is concerned?53:21 What did/do your parents think about ADHD and everything that it entails?57:30 The ‘ADHD item’ segment 01:03:26 Washing machine of woes 01:09:01 A very personal question and one you don't have to answer of course, but what is the process of a relationship coming to an end and then the subsequent divorce like for the chaotic mind of someone with ADHD?01:14:33 Do you think that everything you've been through - including your late diagnosis - has helped you build your career?01:17:41 Where would you be in life without your sense of humour and what purpose does your sense of humour serve in softening the blow of everything we've spoken about already!01:19:35 A wedding day story 01:23:14 Being very much an outsider through Neurodivergent means and, back when you came to the UK, feeling like an outsider through race too, do you have an explanation in a nutshell that might best describe how ostracised a person would feel, and did feel, in that scenario?01:27:04 Most impulsive thing 01:31:37 Closing questions & signing the ‘thinks outside the box’ canvas Buy Shappi's book 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Scatter-Brain-finally-rollercoaster-became/dp/1785044206/Visit Shappi's website for tour tickets 👉 https://shappi.co.ukThis episode has been produced for entertainment purposes only and is in no way meant to be taken as medical advice or advice in any way.

Alex chats with Neurodiversity Consultant, Matt Gupwell, to discuss Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)

Adele specialises in supporting women to balance their hormones naturally. As a woman diagnosed at 41 with ADHD, Adele has a specialist interest in supporting girls & women with how their hormones affect their (un)diagnosed ADHD traits.00:00 Trailer01:41 Can you explain to us men what the hormones and chemicals at play are in a woman, with a focus on the ones that most prominently affect their mood?02:50 What is the "hormone hierarchy"?04:08 In our pre-chat, you said you had nicknames for the hormones, like "The Beyonce of the hormone world", what does this mean and what other nicknames do you have?05:30 Are there fundamental differences in the Sexes, their mood and what might these be?07:24 Firstly, for the uninitiated, what exactly is menopause? And is menopause particularly challenging for someone with ADHD?08:58 Do you think there are fundamental differences then in the way each sex exhibits symptoms of ADHD?10:15 What do you think can be done about this gender bias?11:06 The female hormone cycle and the impact it must have on their mood must be confusing at the best of times, what do you think are the most common confusions that a chemical explanation might help in their understanding of oneself?13:32 What does an ‘ADHD friendly’ lifestyle look like?15:16 What is the "Hormone MOT"?16:05 How does progesterone impact a person's nervous system and what effects can this have on a person's mental and physical wellbeing?17:53 Can people go on living their day-to-day not even realising they may be in a hormone deficiency?19:08 ADHD Item20:09 Washing Machine of Woes23:21 How can women naturally balance their hormones as opposed to taking medication to do so?25:13 Why do you think we love supplements so much and what are your thoughts on medication or supplements?26:08 For a man who is struggling to understand their partner's hormone cycle, what's the best bit of advice you can give them?29:43 Could you briefly explain the changing hormones of a young woman and onwards into post-menopause and how this might have an impact on an ADHD person psychologically?31:27 What is your own personal ADHD diagnosis story and how did a diagnosis help you understand yourself?34:58 Do you think being self aware of all of this science behind our moods is ultimately a good thing or is ignorance, to some extent, bliss?38:54 How to explain menstruation to a child in an age appropriate way?Visit Adele's website 👉 https://harmoniseyou.co.ukFInd ADHD Chatter on social mediaInstagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/adhd_chatter_podcast/?hl=enTikTok 👉 https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_chatter_podcast?lang=enLinkedin 👉 https://www.linkedin.com/in/alex-partridge-9b589480/This episode has been produced for entertainment purposes only and is in no way meant to be taken as medical advice or advice in any way.This episode has been produced for entertainment purposes only and is in no way meant to be taken as medical advice or advice in any way.

Alex chats with ADHD Nutrition Coach, Amber Macintosh.Amber reveals the 3 foods that ACTUALLY help with focus, brain fog and motivation. You probably already have some of these in your fridge!

Jamie Johnston is the founder of Mattr, the first neurodivergent-friendly dating app. Jamie is also AuDHD. This makes him the most knowledgable person in the world to speak to about neurodivergent dating.Expect to learn solutions to the common themes that crop up around ADHD and dating, what men look for in an ADHD partner, if people with ADHD have a 'type', how to manage pre-date overwhelm, how dating apps are manipulating your brain, and so much more!00:00 Trailer01:40 When was your first memory of feeling different? 05:44 Do you see a common theme crop up when it comes to difficulties revolving around ADHD, Dating and friendship? 07:01 What do you think ADHD or AuDHD people look for in a partner? Is there a "type" they go for?09:09 where does your dating app differ from the more commonly known ones?13:48 Talk us through what happens to the ADHD brain when using dating apps.16:14 Talk us through what happens to the ADHD brain just before a first date with someone and why that can be addictive.17:40 Do modern dating apps cause a lot of self-esteem issues within an ADHD brain? 20:37 How are dating apps designed to keep us engaged and why is that particularly bad for someone with ADHD? 22:53 How do you think dating changed pre and post technology and why do so many relationships seem to fizzle out fast? 24:46 Your ADHD Item27:19 Washing machine of woes31:50 Do you think, from your experience, that Neurodivergents are more compatible, or at the very least, drawn to one another? 35:24 What do you think dating would be like for a Neurodivergent person who doesn’t know they are neurodivergent, is there a blind spot there? (I.e, does it help to know in the dating world if you have ADHD)38:13 What has market research told you about the common struggles of a neurodivergent looking for love? 44:20 What is an ideal first date location for a neurodivergent person49:02 What do you think guys are looking for in a partner? ADHD or otherwise?52:57 Do you have a message of hope for those single neurodivergents looking for love? 53:43 What do men tend to look for in a woman online from their dating profiles?56:06 Top mistakes women make on their dating profiles57:38 First date red flags that could suggest narcissism58:43 RSD and dating, how are they interlinked? 01:00:34 Celibacy, dating apps and the dopamine of an ADHDer. Is someone with ADHD more inclined to get distracted?01:03:48 Is alcohol on a first date a good idea for someone with ADHD?01:06:48 Do you think Ghosting and ADHD have a relationship? Visit the Mattr website 👉 https://www.mattr.socialDownload Mattr 👉 https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/mattr-date-different/id6444309024?mt=8&shortlink=xr3hk6i8&c=mattr_website&pid=QR_code&af_xp=qr&source_caller=uiVisit Jamie's LinkedIn 👉 https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamiejohnston9033/FInd ADHD Chatter on social mediaInstagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/adhd_chatter_podcast/?hl=enTikTok 👉 https://www.tiktok.com/@adhd_chatter_podcast?lang=enLinkedin 👉 https://www.linkedin.com/in/alex-partridge-9b589480/This episode has been produced for entertainment purposes only and is in no way meant to be taken as medical advice or advice in any way.

Jo Perkins is a Psychologist, Speaker, Optimisation and Neurodiversity Expert who applies the science of Psychology in all her work. In this bitesize clip, Dr. Jo explains why people with ADHD struggle with 'overcompensating', how we can manage it, and how we can all increase our self belief and beat imposter syndrome.

This week, Alex chats with Neuroscientist, Nicole Vignola. Have you ever lied down in bed, and suddenly got a racing mind? This episode will give you the solutions and the techniques to sleep peacefully without anxious thoughts consuming your mind. Topics:00:00 Trailer01:36 Let’s start with a really simple question that can apply to all of us, why do we need sleep? 02:46 Why do our ADHD minds just not shut up when we bed down for the night. I get my most creative thoughts at 3am! Is there a reason for this?04:34 Do our dreams serve a purpose? 05:22 Are there ways we can tell how much sleep we need and if we’re getting enough just from day to day function? Do food cravings mean we need more sleep, for example? 06:32 How much sleep do we need and what unravels if we don’t have enough sleep?08:04 If we are sleep deprived, what are the negative effects and how does it affect our stress hormones like cortisol? 08:47 What happens to our brain after a great night's sleep and why do we need that?10:35 Does catching a quick nap throughout the day, on the train or whether, help to re-level ourselves? Or should we withhold and wait till night time to sleep?17:12 Do people with ADHD need more sleep than Neurotypicals? 17:34 Sleep deprivation is used as torture, which says it all! What happens to us if we are severely deprived of sleep?19:17 ADHD Item20:42 Your book21:46 What helps us sleep; is there a good proven remedy to unwind?30:09 Is there a difference between stress and anxiety?32:15 Sleep and having an intimate partner. Evolutionary, do we sleep better if there is someone we love close by?35:08 Do you have 3 tips for us to really increase the chances of us improving our sleep?35:41 For the mothers listening, 37:13 What other beneficial effects does a good sleep routine have that we might not even realise? 37:31 Do you see a common cycle revolving around phones, lack of sleep and coffee the next morning and does this affect our mental/physical wellbeing? 38:30 Washing machine of woes (ADHD Agony aunt)47:38 Most impulsive thingBuy Nicole's book 👉 https://www.amazon.co.uk/Rewire-Your-Neurotoolkit-Everyday-Life/dp/0241661838/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2SXL5N4274FCX&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.AIxpDxpxEEdvvfsHFoxFMTg-3usU-6VA_XgG4zugBJfGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.krlJ_TPHO7Uu-lMkURzDivdxYjkGNRrLW5nD8GcYnRU&dib_tag=se&keywords=rewire+nicole+vignola&qid=1722898806&sprefix=rewire+%2Caps%2C133&sr=8-1Follow Nicole's Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/nicolesneuroscience/Support ADHD Chatter:LinkedIn 👉 https://bit.ly/3m1qm8QInstagram 👉 https://bit.ly/3KuNXIrTikTok 👉 https://bit.ly/3ZxZNGdThis episode has been produced for entertainment purposes only and is in no way meant to be taken as medical advice or advice in any way.

Kate Spicer dissects her late ADHD diagnosis (only 2 months ago) and shares many lessons she's learnt. This episode is painfully relatable but also full of hope, humour and insights.Kate is a lifestyle journalist who has written for Vogue, the Sunday Times, The Times, the Daily Mail and the Evening Standard.Topics:00:00 Trailer01:21 You have a very amusing nickname for your Brain. What is it? And why do you call it that?05:14 Have your family accepted your diagnosis?14:10 Internal narratives leading to dark places20:49 Relationships24:59 What’s been your biggest realisation since your diagnosis28:35 Were you worried ADHD medication would numb your creative mind?30:14 Kate’s experience with hallucinagentics37:07 Are you sensitive to criticism?47:13 Your ADHD item51:06 Do you think there’s a link between ADHD, RSD and the pursuit to be beautiful52:55 Can you - for the benefit of our male listeners - just briefly describe what being undiagnosed ADHD is like at school from your perspective as an adolescent female trying to find her way?56:45 What do you think are the 3 most confusing attributes about yourself that someone who doesn't understand ADHD would have trouble understanding about you?01:01:35 Your most impulsive thingRead Kate's substack 👉 https://katespicer.substack.com/archiveFind Kate on Instagram 👉 https://www.instagram.com/spicerlife/?hl=en-gbSupport ADHD Chatter:LinkedIn 👉 https://bit.ly/3m1qm8QInstagram 👉 https://bit.ly/3KuNXIrTikTok 👉 https://bit.ly/3ZxZNGdThis episode has been produced for entertainment purposes only and is in no way meant to be taken as medical advice or advice in any way.