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The Ultimate Guide to ADHD Dating - Jamie Johnston
Jamie Johnston is the founder of Mattr, the first neurodivergent-friendly dating app. Jamie is also AuDHD. This makes him the most knowledgable person in the world to speak to about neurodivergent dating.
Expect to learn solutions to the common themes that crop up around ADHD and dating, what men look for in an ADHD partner, if people with ADHD have a 'type', how to manage pre-date overwhelm, how dating apps are manipulating your brain, and so much more!
00:00 Trailer
01:40 When was your first memory of feeling different?
05:44 Do you see a common theme crop up when it comes to difficulties revolving around ADHD, Dating and friendship?
07:01 What do you think ADHD or AuDHD people look for in a partner? Is there a "type" they go for?
09:09 where does your dating app differ from the more commonly known ones?
13:48 Talk us through what happens to the ADHD brain when using dating apps.
16:14 Talk us through what happens to the ADHD brain just before a first date with someone and why that can be addictive.
17:40 Do modern dating apps cause a lot of self-esteem issues within an ADHD brain?
20:37 How are dating apps designed to keep us engaged and why is that particularly bad for someone with ADHD?
22:53 How do you think dating changed pre and post technology and why do so many relationships seem to fizzle out fast?
24:46 Your ADHD Item
27:19 Washing machine of woes
31:50 Do you think, from your experience, that Neurodivergents are more compatible, or at the very least, drawn to one another?
35:24 What do you think dating would be like for a Neurodivergent person who doesn’t know they are neurodivergent, is there a blind spot there? (I.e, does it help to know in the dating world if you have ADHD)
38:13 What has market research told you about the common struggles of a neurodivergent looking for love?
44:20 What is an ideal first date location for a neurodivergent person
49:02 What do you think guys are looking for in a partner? ADHD or otherwise?
52:57 Do you have a message of hope for those single neurodivergents looking for love?
53:43 What do men tend to look for in a woman online from their dating profiles?
56:06 Top mistakes women make on their dating profiles
57:38 First date red flags that could suggest narcissism
58:43 RSD and dating, how are they interlinked?
01:00:34 Celibacy, dating apps and the dopamine of an ADHDer. Is someone with ADHD more inclined to get distracted?
01:03:48 Is alcohol on a first date a good idea for someone with ADHD?
01:06:48 Do you think Ghosting and ADHD have a relationship?
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