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The Hidden Cost of Rushing into a First Date

Season 2, Ep. 4

I went on a date with a man who said all the right things, until dinner. What he said within 20 minutes revealed the biggest red flag in dating... and it shook me. But here's the real story: it's not just about him. It's about how we ignore our gut, move too fast, and call it chemistry when it's actually anxious attachment. If you've ever felt that tension between excitement and discernment, this one's for you.

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