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The Self Development Podcast
Ep 78 Natalie Russell | Attachment Styles, Relationship Recovery & Being a Reality TV Star | The Self Development Podcast
In this episode, Johnny Lawrence speaks to Natalie Russell, a relationship recovery coach and star of the TV show My Mum, Your Dad. They discuss Natalie's journey, including her time on the show and her breakup with Paul. Natalie shares her insights on knowing when a relationship is over and the lessons she learned from being in the public eye. They also delve into attachment theory and how it affects relationship patterns. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness and growth in building healthy relationships. In this conversation, Natalie Russell discusses the impact of attachment styles on relationships and emphasises the importance of the relationship with oneself. She highlights the need for self-care and the signs of a poor relationship with oneself. Natalie also shares her journey of accepting and embracing flaws and dealing with difficult emotions such as rage and grief. She reflects on the lessons learned from challenging relationships and the power of expressing emotions through bodywork. Natalie emphasises the role of perception and taking responsibility in relationships and the importance of finding a supportive tribe. She concludes by discussing the difference between being single and being alone.
- Knowing when to walk away from a relationship that isn't right for you is a sign of growth and self-awareness.
- Being in the public eye can be challenging, but it can also provide opportunities for personal growth and self-discovery.
- Attachment styles, such as secure, anxious, and avoidant, play a significant role in how we navigate relationships.
- Building secure attachments and healthy relationships requires self-work, communication, and a willingness to learn and grow. The relationship with oneself is crucial for healthy relationships with others.
- Self-care and prioritising one's well-being are essential for a healthy relationship with oneself.
- Accepting and embracing flaws is a key aspect of personal growth and healing.
- Dealing with difficult emotions, such as rage and grief, requires self-compassion and acceptance.
- Finding a supportive tribe and surrounding oneself with like-minded individuals is important for personal development and growth.
00:00 Introduction and Apology
00:30 Grounding and Zen
01:16 Natalie's Professional Setup
04:11 Natalie's Colorful Journey
05:11 The TV Show and Breakup with Paul
08:05 Knowing When a Relationship is Over
10:20 Lessons from Being on a TV Show
11:15 The Journey After the Show
13:55 The Silence After the Show
20:37 Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns
25:17 The Rarity of Secure Attachment
27:48 Navigating Differences in Relationships
28:18 The Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships
30:37 The Relationship with Oneself
31:24 The Importance of Self-Care
32:23 Signs of a Poor Relationship with Oneself
33:24 Accepting and Embracing Flaws
36:05 Dealing with Difficult Emotions
38:25 Lessons Learned from Challenging Relationships
41:30 Understanding and Managing Rage and Grief
45:03 Expressing Emotions through Body Work
46:28 Perception and Taking Responsibility
49:51 The Power of Finding Your Tribe
52:23 Being Single vs. Being Alone
53:51 Where to Find Natalie Russell
FIND NATALIE RUSSELL
Instagram @iamnatalierussell
Website https://www.natalierussell.uk/
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01:14:23||Season 2, Ep. 8SummaryIn this episode, Jonny Lawrence interviews Taner Hassan, an integrative counsellor and psychotherapist specialising in sex and porn addiction, compulsive behaviour, and psychosexual issues. They discuss the importance of authenticity in therapy and the need for accurate information in the field. Taner shares his personal journey of self-love and acceptance, highlighting the transformative power of receiving love from others. He emphasises the importance of resonating with oneself and others in relationships. In this part of the conversation, Taner and Johnny discuss the challenges of trying to be someone else to fit in and be accepted. They share assuming stories of trying to change their accents and personas to please others. Taner reflects on embracing authenticity and not taking oneself too seriously. They also explore the emotions of anger and resentment and the need to acknowledge one's own part in conflicts. Taner emphasises the importance of feeling and processing emotions rather than avoiding them. In this final part of the conversation, Taner and Johnny discuss addictive behaviour, the dangers of sex and pornography addiction, and the impact of cheating on relationships.Taner emphasises the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for addictive behaviour and the need to challenge the behaviour itself. He also highlights the distinction between having a sex addiction and being a sex offender. Taner encourages people to take risks, learn from failures, and visualise their goals. He also mentions his involvement in the movie 'Bermondsey Tales' and invites listeners to watch it.TakeawaysWorking for oneself requires self-motivation and organisational skills.Authenticity is crucial in therapy and allows for a deeper connection with clients.Accurate information is essential in the field of therapy to provide effective help.Self-love and acceptance are transformative and require personal growth and reflection.Resonating with oneself and others is important in building meaningful relationships. Trying to be someone else to fit in and be accepted is exhausting and can lead to a loss of self-identity.Embracing authenticity and not taking oneself too seriously can lead to greater happiness and fulfilment.Anger is often a secondary emotion that masks underlying fear or other emotions.Resentment is toxic and can be resolved by acknowledging one's own part in conflicts.It is important to feel and process emotions rather than avoiding them. Understanding the underlying reasons for addictive behaviour is crucial in addressing and challenging the behaviour itself.There is a distinction between having a sex addiction and being a sex offender.Taking risks, learning from failures, and visualising goals are important for self-development.Relationships can recover from the betrayal of cheating, but it requires understanding the story and addressing the underlying issues.Taner invites listeners to watch the movie 'Bermondsey Tales' in which he has a role.Find Taner HassanInstagram: @tanertherapy Website: https://www.taner-hassan.com/ Find The Self Development CoachWebsite: https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk/7. Ep 83 Caroline Strawson | Narcissism, Trauma-Bonding & Neuro-Divergence | The Self Development Podcast
01:13:25||Season 2, Ep. 7SummaryIn this episode, self-development coach Johnny Lawrence interviews narcissism expert Caroline Strawson. They discuss the overuse and misinterpretation of the term 'narcissist' in society, the impact of narcissistic abuse as a form of domestic abuse, and the importance of understanding narcissism from a trauma-informed perspective. Caroline shares her personal journey of healing from narcissistic abuse and how she transitioned from being a podiatrist to a trauma-informed therapist and coach. They also explore the concept of post-traumatic growth and the complexities of narcissism, including the covert narcissist and the role of trauma in narcissistic behaviour. In this conversation, Caroline and Johnny discuss the dynamics of narcissistic relationships and the impact of narcissistic abuse. They explore the concept of mirror neurons and how people in relationships with narcissists often exhibit narcissistic traits themselves as a means of self-protection. They also discuss the concept of trauma bonding and the physiological addiction that can develop in toxic relationships. Caroline emphasises the importance of strategy and support in healing from narcissistic abuse. She highlights the need to honour and express emotions, such as anger and sadness, in a healthy way. They also touch on the differences between neurodivergence and narcissism.TakeawaysThe term 'narcissist' is often overused and misinterpreted in society, leading to the minimisation of the experiences of those who have suffered narcissistic abuse.Narcissistic abuse is a form of domestic abuse and should be taken seriously.Healing from narcissistic abuse requires understanding and addressing the trauma that underlies it.Post-traumatic growth is possible after experiencing narcissistic abuse, leading to a thriving and flourishing life.Narcissism is a complex issue, and there are different types of narcissists, including the covert narcissist.It is important to focus on healing oneself rather than trying to change a narcissist, as they are unlikely to take ownership or responsibility for their behaviour. People in relationships with narcissists often exhibit narcissistic traits themselves as a means of self-protection.Trauma bonding can develop in toxic relationships, leading to a physiological addiction to the cycle of love bombing and silent treatment.Expressing and honouring emotions, such as anger and sadness, is crucial for healing from narcissistic abuse.Understanding the differences between neurodivergence and narcissism is important to avoid misdiagnosis and provide appropriate support.Hope is essential in the healing process, and finding the right community and support can make a significant difference.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Buzzword06:18 Caroline's Journey: From Podiatrist to Trauma-Informed Therapist12:24 Post-Traumatic Growth and Living a Thriving Life30:16 Defining Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder36:23 The Complexity of Narcissism and Reactive Abuse37:12 The Dynamics of Narcissistic Relationships and the Impact of Narcissistic Abuse39:38 Mirror Neurons and the Development of Narcissistic Traits in Relationships41:49 Trauma Bonding and the Physiological Addiction in Toxic Relationships44:38 Healing and the Importance of Expressing and Honoring Emotions47:31 Understanding the Differences Between Neurodivergence and Narcissism50:02 Finding Hope and Support in the Healing ProcessFind Caroline StrawsonWebsite: https://carolinestrawson.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolinestrawson/?hl=en6. Ep 82 Lou Lebentz | Trauma, Anger & Nearly Drowning | The Self Development Podcast
01:06:45||Season 2, Ep. 6SummaryIn this episode, Johnny Lawrence interviews Lou LeBentz, the founder of the online trauma recovery program, The Voyage. They discuss the importance of speaking and campaigning for mental health, as well as the need for affordable and accessible treatment options. They also explore the concept of trauma and its impact on our lives, including the different types of trauma and the importance of understanding and processing our emotions. The conversation highlights the need for education and support in navigating trauma and building resilience. In this conversation, Lou Lebentz and Johnny Lawrence discuss the importance of embracing and working through emotions, particularly anger. They explore the concept of inner child work and the impact of childhood trauma on adult behaviour. They emphasise the need for self-acceptance and self-discovery rather than trying to love oneself overnight. They also touch on managing emotions and the importance of trauma-informed care in leadership and government. Overall, the conversation highlights the ongoing journey of self-development and the power of vulnerability and authenticity.TakeawaysSpeaking and campaigning for mental health is important to make treatment more accessible and affordable for everyone.Trauma can come in different forms, including chronic stress, lack of attunement in childhood, parental interjects, and societal factors.Understanding and processing our emotions is crucial in navigating trauma and building resilience.Education and support are needed to help individuals identify and address trauma in their lives. Embrace and work through emotions, including anger, rather than avoiding or suppressing them.Inner child work can help uncover and heal childhood trauma that influences adult behaviour.Self-acceptance and self-discovery are more realistic goals than trying to love oneself overnight.Breathwork can be a powerful tool for managing and regulating emotions.Trauma-informed care is essential in leadership and government to address the collective trauma experienced by society.The journey of self-development is ongoing and requires continuous effort and self-reflection.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Background08:03 Speaking and Campaigning for Mental Health15:05 Understanding the Different Types of Trauma36:26 Embracing and Working Through Emotions48:56 From Self-Acceptance to Self-Discovery57:03 The Importance of Trauma-Informed Care in Leadership and GovernmentFind Lou LebentzInstagram @loulebentz_Website https://www.thevoyageacademy.com/ Find The Self Development CoachWebsite - https://www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk/Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/theselfdevelopmentcoach/?hl=enTik Tok - https://www.tiktok.com/@theselfdevelopmentcoach5. Ep 81 Julius Cowdrey | Legacy, Betrayal & Creating A Safe Space | The Self Development Podcast
01:06:40||Season 2, Ep. 5SummaryIn this episode, Johnny Lawrence interviews Julius Cowdrey, co-founder of Safe Space, a community focused on mental well-being and coaching. The conversation covers topics such as the global mental well-being crisis, personal experiences, the impact of reality TV, the need for accessible coaching, and the importance of open communication. The discussion also delves into the challenges men face in expressing emotions and the educational elements of Safe Space. The conversation delves into the themes of personal development, self-awareness, and emotional resilience. It explores the impact of experiences, the importance of values, and the process of self-discovery. The discussion also touches on the challenges of betrayal, the significance of suffering, and the value of self-compassion. The conversation concludes with insights on zooming out to gain perspective and the power of community in personal growth.TakeawaysThe global mental well-being crisis is a pressing issue, and accessible coaching and open communication are crucial for addressing it.Reality TV experiences can lead to a misalignment with personal values and purpose, prompting a shift towards more meaningful endeavours.Men face challenges in expressing emotions due to societal expectations, and creating a safe space for open communication is essential for addressing men's mental health.Educational elements in mental well-being communities, such as Safe Space, can provide valuable resources for understanding and managing emotions.The journey of personal growth and self-discovery often involves overcoming challenges and finding light in difficult experiences. Self-awareness and personal development are deeply influenced by experiences and values.Self-discovery involves understanding the impact of past experiences and the values that shape one's identity.Betrayal and suffering are significant challenges that can lead to emotional resilience and self-compassion.Zooming out to gain perspective and the power of community plays a crucial role in personal growth and development.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Safe Space and Mental Well-being Crisis05:21 Reality TV, Misalignment, and Meaningful Endeavors07:57 Challenges of Men's Mental Health and Emotional Expression32:32 Journey of Personal Growth and Self-Discovery34:22 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Personal Development56:21 Gaining Perspective and the Power of CommunityFind Juilus CowdreyInstagram https://www.instagram.com/jlcowdrey/?hl=en Website https://www.safespaceglobal.co.uk/ Find The Self Development CoachInstagram @theselfdevelopmentcoach Website www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk4. Ep 80 Jill Ritchie & Sarah Gregg | Your Shadow Self, Inner Child & Sports Day | The Self Development Podcast
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01:05:27||Season 2, Ep. 3SummaryIn this episode, the self-development coach Johnny Lawrence interviews nutritionist Dale Pinnock, also known as the Medicinal Chef. They discuss the role of nutrition in healthcare and disease prevention. Dale emphasises the importance of individualised nutrition and the limitations of one-size-fits-all approaches. He also highlights the need for integrity in the nutrition industry and the impact of nutrition on mental health. Specifically, they delve into the significance of omega-3 fatty acids in supporting brain health and reducing inflammation. Overall, the conversation provides valuable insights into the connection between nutrition and overall well-being. In this conversation, Dale Pinnock discusses various aspects of nutrition and health. He emphasises the importance of B vitamins and whole grains for neurotransmitter synthesis and recommends magnesium for anxiety relief. Dale also highlights the role of fats in hormone production and suggests balancing carbohydrate intake. He explains the connection between gut health and the microbiome and the impact of inflammation on overall health. Additionally, Dale discusses the role of B vitamins in improving mood and energy and offers advice on self-development through making small changes.TakeawaysIndividualised nutrition is crucial for optimal health and disease prevention.The nutrition industry should prioritise integrity and evidence-based practices.Nutrition plays a significant role in mental health, and certain dietary changes can support brain health.Omega-3 fatty acids, particularly EPA and DHA, are essential for brain function and reducing inflammation.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Background01:35 Overview of Dale Pinnock's Work08:05 The Role of Nutrition in Disease Prevention and Management12:23 The Problem with One-Size-Fits-All Approaches22:15 The Impact of Nutrition on Mental Health29:47 The Role of Omega-3 Fatty Acids in Mental Health33:44 The Importance of B Vitamins and Whole Grains36:06 Magnesium for Anxiety Relief37:05 The Role of Fats in Hormone Production38:48 Balancing Carbohydrate Intake42:21 Gut Health and the Microbiome48:57 Sleep and the Importance of Magnesium52:59 Inflammation and its Impact on Health56:26 Improving Mood and Energy with B Vitamins01:00:19 Self-Development: Making Small ChangesFIND DALE PINNOCKInstagram @themedicinalchefWebsite www.nutritioncoachacademy.com FIND THE SELF-DEVELOPMENT COACHInstagram @theselfdevelopmentcoach Website www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.uk1. Ep 77 Ryan Stephens | Fear, Comfort Zones & Going to Prison | The Self Development Podcast
01:00:09||Season 2, Ep. 1SummaryIn this episode, Johnny Lawrence speaks with mindset and accountability coach Ryan Stephens. They discuss the importance of facing fears and stepping out of their comfort zones. Ryan shares his journey as a mindset coach and how he helps people challenge themselves to become better. They also talk about Ryan's initiatives, such as Wild Minds Gower and the Get After It Club, which aim to empower individuals through self-development and physical challenges. The conversation highlights the value of helping others and the personal growth of overcoming challenges. In this conversation, Ryan Stephens shares his personal experiences of loss, toxic environments, and personal growth. He emphasises the importance of planting seeds of hope and the power of sharing one's own struggles to offer hope to others. Ryan discusses how physically, mentally, and spiritually challenging oneself can lead to personal growth and self-understanding. Johnny also highlights the significance of spiralling towards solutions rather than spiralling outwards and making problems bigger. Ryan concludes by sharing his future plans and the importance of building communities.TakeawaysStepping out of your comfort zone and facing your fears is essential for personal growth.Challenging yourself to do things you dislike or fear can lead to significant personal development.Helping others and seeing their growth can be incredibly rewarding and fulfilling.Overcoming challenges and obstacles can lead to a deeper understanding of oneself and a sense of purpose. Planting seeds of hope can have a profound impact, even if you may not see the results immediately.Challenging oneself physically, mentally, and spiritually can lead to personal growth and self-understanding.Spiralling towards solutions and focusing on growth can help overcome setbacks and challenges.Learning and growing from life's challenges can lead to personal transformation and a positive impact on others.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Morning Activities01:11 Facing Fears and Stepping Out of Comfort Zones06:16 The Cave You Fear to Enter Holds the Treasure You Seek09:02 Ryan's Journey as a Mindset and Accountability Coach12:19 Wild Minds Gower and Get After It Club16:37 Helping Others and Personal Growth21:01 Ryan's Natural Inclination to Help Others23:15 The Power of Overcoming Challenges25:16 The Journey of a Young Man's Transformation27:07 Motivation to Help Others27:11 Planting Seeds of Hope29:12 Loss and Personal Growth31:03 Setting Up a Business and Toxic Environments33:27 Spiraling Towards Solutions36:08 Finding Growth in Challenging Situations41:13 Overcoming Setbacks and Defining Your Own Path46:01 Learning and Growing from Life's Challenges50:25 Challenging Yourself for Personal Growth56:25 Future Plans and Building CommunitiesFIND RYAN HERE Instagram @ryanstephens___Wild Minds Gower https://wildmindsgower.co.uk/Website: https://www.ryanstephens.co/ FIND THE SELF-DEVELOPMENT COACHInstagram @theselfdevelopmentcoach Website www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.ukEp 76 Pat Divilly | Mind, Body & Health | The Self Development Podcast
01:11:41|In this episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with the incredible Pat Divilly.Pat has been involved in the wellness industry for over fifteen years, starting with the fitness sector and later transitioning into mental, emotional, and relational wellness. He is the host of the renowned podcast "The Pat Divilly Podcast" and the author of the bestselling book "Fit Mind." Pat frequently conducts workshops, online programs, and retreats to assist individuals in healing emotionally, forming connections, and living authentically.Highlights:👉 The difference between mental and emotional health 👉 The importance of being honest with yourself👉 Men's mental healthLinks:www.theselfdevelopmentcoach.co.ukhttps://www.patdivilly.com/ Follow On Instagram:@theselfdevelopmentcoach@theselfdevelopmentpodcast@patdivillyFollow On Tik Tokhttps://www.tiktok.com/@theselfdevelopmentcoachCharlie Currie produces The Self Development Podcast from Chatter Podcasts.The Self Development Podcast theme music is called ‘Life I Chose’ by Kick Lee.