The Labia Lounge

In this juicy episode, I'm joined once again by Susan Bratton, a total powerhouse bad b*tch and "intimacy expert to millions." Together, we dive deep into all things related to sexuality, pleasure, holistic health, and the evolution of our intimate lives—especially as we age. This time, the focus is on sex tech, regenerative therapies, and the latest tools for enhancing sexual vitality from a body-positive, empowering, and absolutely pleasure-inclusive perspective.Here’s what you can look forward to in this episode:A foundational breakdown of female arousal processes, anatomy of pleasure, and how blood flow, nitric oxide, and healthy tissue contribute to sensational sex at every age.An honest discussion around the “sex tech” industry—what’s actually effective, what’s potentially harmful, and how to discern between empowering innovations and patriarchal, profit-driven gimmicks.Susan's personal approach to aging vibrantly and owning her “elder slut era”—from sexual confidence and body love to embracing pleasure as a key to longevity and happiness.Insight into regenerative and biohacking techniques like red light therapy, acoustic wave treatments (GainsWave), hormone support, vulva and clitoral pumps, and the importance of gut health for producing oxytocin and serotonin.Candid stories about exploring consent, boundaries, non-monogamy, agentic sexuality, and how to continually expand your orgasmic potential with pleasure cross-training.Cautions about trends and tech to avoid, including vaginal lasers and RF rejuvenation devices, and grounded guidance on making choices rooted in body literacy and integrated wellness.You'll also hear practical tips for keeping your pleasure pathways diversified, non-reliant on one “quick fix,” and ways to use both technology and your own intuition to expand your relationship with your body and sexual energy.Plus, Susan geeks out over favorites in lubes, sex toys, DIY recipes, and what it truly means to be an "agentic elder slut." There’s plenty in here for curious beginners, pleasure pros, and anyone wanting to enrich their sex life with more wisdom, fun, and sovereignty.Check out Susan's work and resources here: https://betterlover.com/https://www.facebook.com/trustedhotsexadvisortomillions/https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton/https://twitter.com/susanbrattonhttps://www.youtube.com/c/BetterLoverhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/susanbratton/Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

Ever felt totally swept off your feet—so obsessed with someone you can’t focus, function, or stop replaying every text and glance in your head? In this episode of The Labia Lounge, I sit down with psychologist and author Orly Miller to peel back the layers on limerence: the misunderstood, often pathological fixation that masquerades as intense love.We get real about:What limerence actually IS (and why it’s not just “the honeymoon phase”)How limerence differs from healthy love and crushesWhy social media is a breeding ground for obsessive longingThe warning signs it’s tipping into unhealthy territoryActionable advice for anyone suffering with obsessive attachmentThe hidden potential for growth and healing—even in the hardest momentsWhether you’ve been the one obsessing or just want to better navigate those wild early relationship feels, this episode brings the nuanced, taboo-busting conversation you wish sex ed gave you. Plus, practical tips from Orly if you want to break free, heal, and turn the obsession into a powerful transformation.Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Check out Orly's work and book here: instagram: orly.millerwebsite: orlymillerpsychology.comGet my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

This week in The Labia Lounge, I welcome Emily Goodson—author, speaker, and advocate—to chat about her new book, "Dating Disability," and her powerful journey from 15-year-old confusion and low self worth to confidence, acceptance, and self-love.Emily shares the real talk on friend-zoning, dating apps, beauty standards, and breaking free from myths that paint disabled people as asexual or unworthy. She dives into how media portrayal (or lack thereof) impacts self-worth, why she finally called in professional help, and what it’s actually like navigating love, lust, and connection as a woman living with partial paralysis.Get ready for intimate anecdotes, TMI sex-ed throwbacks, challenging assumptions, and a heap of raw, empowering wisdom on claiming space—in bed and in life. Tune in for a beautiful blend of vulnerability, advocacy, and LOLs that’ll inspire you, no matter your own dating journey.Tune in to discover why communication, self-awareness, and choosing yourself are the ultimate aphrodisiacs.This eppy is for anyone curious about sexuality, disability, dating apps, or just keen to learn how to be a better human (and lover). Grab Emily’s book, join the convo, and follow her work here: www.ecgoodson.comhttps://a.co/d/7dmD4xJhttps://ecgoodson.substack.com/Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

This week in The Labia Lounge I welcome breakup and relationship coach Cole Zesiger for an honest, compassionate, and deeply practical chat about breakups: the grief and loss, the existential crisis, and—the way back to yourself. If you’re in the trenches, freshly broken up, or struggling years later, this episode will remind you: you’re not alone, it’s normal to be floored by heartbreak, and there are ways to navigate, heal, and even grow from your experience.We unpack the vital importance of no contact (even when it feels sooo lonely and unnatural), common mistakes that keep us stuck (hello, social media stalking, breakup segz, and the closure myth!), and how hope and action can be harnessed to build an amazing new life. There’s advice on handling big emotions, learning from your breakup, how to move on, and forgiving—if only for your own peace. This episode is as relatable as it is educational!Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!JOIN BREAKUP CLUB by heading over to my IG or The Lab Lounge Facebook group to enquire and jump on board!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!Pre-order Cole's book and receive the first chapter immediately as well as a bonus chapter that's not even in the book: https://coachcolezesiger.com/exsandnosCheck out Cole's work here:https://coachcolezesiger.com/booking*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

This week in The Labia Lounge eating disorder recovery coach, Mia Findlay, shares her raw and unfiltered personal story, going way beyond the stereotypes to bust common myths and spark real hope for full recovery.We unpack the sneaky ways modern society, diet culture and social media reinforce disordered eating, why ‘just eat a burger’ is the most toxic phrase around, and how to actually spot warning signs in people you love. Plus, Mia reveals the behind-the-scenes truth of recovery clinics, the crisis of underfunding, and why body comments—even well-meaning, "positive" ones—can be surprisingly harmful.Mia comes from a place of lived experience to powerful advocacy now that she's fully recovered, and you’ll learn:What recovery really means (it’s not just remission!)How shame and the desire to belong fuel disordered behavioursWhy eating disorders affect ALL kinds of bodies and peoplePractical advice for supporting friends, family, and yourselfThe hope and truth that recovery IS possibleUndercover warning signs or early markers of disordered behaviourWhat NOT to do or say Some little-known myths and misconceptionsRisk factorsIf you’ve ever struggled with body image, food, or want the REAL, behind-the-scenes lowdown on eating disorders, this is a must-listen. Let’s smash stigmas, support each other, and get empowered to tackle this together.Check out Mia's work here: https://www.beyondbodycoach.com/https://www.tiktok.com/@whatmiadidnexthttps://www.instagram.com/whatmiadidnext/Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

This week in The Labia Lounge I got to chat with Lil Desille from Neurokinnection all about AuDHD and relationships!We’re diving deep into all the real, raw, and sometimes challenging and/or hilarious realities of navigating sex, dating, and relationships when you’re neurodivergent—or loving someone who is. Lil shares her journey from late diagnosis (and all the euphoria AND grief that entailed), busts myths about rising neurodiversity rates, and sheds much-needed light on why so many folks born into female bodies get diagnosed later in life.You’ll hear about masking, miscommunication, the magic of directness, why pockets (trust us, you’ll want these in your relationship toolkit) can save your ass at parties, and how to be kinder to yourself and your spicy-brained loved ones while navigating dating and relationships. Plus, we tackle internalized ableism, shame, and why kink might just be a neurodivergent haven!Whether you’re curious about autism & ADHD, somewhere in the diagnostic Venn diagram, or just want to deepen your understanding of neurodiverse relationships, this episode is packed with realness, education, and laughs.Tune in for:Late-diagnosis life stories and identity integrationWhy more women and AFAB folks are discovering their neurospicinessMaking sex and intimacy work for neurodivergent brainsThe gifts and challenges of authentic communicationPractical tools for managing sensory overload, social batteries, and the “domestic load”The genius of ‘pockets’ for smooth relationship transitionsHow to support and celebrate neurodivergent partners (and yourself!)Aaaaand you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!Find and follow Lil's work here: www.neurokinnection.com.au@neurokinnection (insta / TikTok)www.nk-intimacy-alchemy.com.au*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

When was the last time you felt truly empowered by technology? In this episode of The Labia Lounge, I sit down with Dr. Nici Sweaney—globally-recognized voice in ethical AI, fierce feminist leader, and founder of AI Her Way—to unpack some of the latest developments in AI and why women must have a seat at the proverbial table.Together, we dive deep into:How AI can be a powerful tool for equity, access, and social good—if we shape it intentionallyThe very real (and kinda scary!) risks of bias, patriarchy, and gender inequality built into AI systemsEveryday, practical ways to actually use ChatGPT (and its ilk!) to lighten the mental loadWhy boundaries, empowerment, and self-trust are key to reshaping our lives and tech spacesThe dark side of AI: deepfakes, porn, and what parents absolutely need to knowTangible hope: the inspiring ways women, survivors, and underrepresented voices can change the future of techIf you’ve ever felt daunted, left behind, resistant, or overwhelmed about all things artificial intelligence, this episode will help—and fire up your feminist spirit for good.Tune in for real talk, hearty chuckles, eye-opening insights, and a rousing call to arms: it’s time to make sure women’s voices are at the heart of our digital future.We've also got a mini series in the works to give you an even more detailed and step-by-step resource to begin integrating AI into your life in a feminist way. So stay tuned for that!Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Nici has generously offered listeners FREE access to her Generative AI Essentials course for Time-starved Professionals that you can grab here: https://pages.aiherway.com.au/14-day-gen-ai-labia-loungeCheck out and follow Dr. Nici's work here: https://www.aiherway.com.au/Her AI for Impact Hub: https://www.aiherway.com.au/aiforimpacthubInstagram: @ai_herwayLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-nici-sweaney/Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagraf

In this episode of The Labia Lounge Christine Rafe from Good Vibes Clinic and I discuss how we can overcome performance anxiety, get out of our heads and have better intimacy.We cover the different ways performance anxiety can present and how it shows up differently for different genders; we talk about the most common ways this ruins your sex life, and give practical tips to combat this and stop getting in your own way.Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Check out Christine's work here: www.goodvibesclinic.com.au and get her course on painful sex here: www.christinerafe.com.au/overcoming-sexual-pain-courseMake sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

This week on The Labia Lounge I chatted with Yemi Penn, a global thought leader, engineer, author, film-maker, researcher, and keynote speaker. On top of all these incredibly impressive accolades, Yemi is also delightfully warm, deeply empathetic, and wonderfully human. Speaking with her was such an honour, and her thoughtful perspectives and raw life experience is true a gift to the podcast.We discuss things like rebellious curiosity, leadership, breaking inherited cycles and trauma in this thought-provoking episode. Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!Check out Yemi's work here: www.yemipenn.comMake sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the poddy!*** Join my Labia Lounge Facebook group for extra content, Q & As, freebies from my guests, discounts and to be part of a rad and supportive community of labial legends! www.facebook.com/groups/thelabialounge/Get my FREE mini-course P*ssy Pleasure Secrets - Your Roadmap to Bedroom Bliss here: https://freya-graf.xperiencify.io/expiring-mini-course/order/Grab a P*ssy Magnet and check out the new Labia Lounge MERCH over here (there's even fanny packs if the standard tote bags and tees ain't cuttin' it for ya!): https://www.freyagraf.com/productsonline-trainingsAnd chuck me a follow here: https://www.instagram.com/freyagraf_thelabialounge/AND here: (my backup account cos I keep offending the Algorithms-that-be) https://www.instagram.com/freya.graf/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@freyagraf?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcAnd on my YouTube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/@freyagraf_thelabialoungeOr support me and the poddy by buying me an extra hot soy chai latte (yes, that is my coffee order cos I'm a bit of a tosser like that) here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/freyagrafOr at my Patreon here: https://patreon.com/freyagraf?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink