Parenting The Adlerian Way

Join me as I talk to family relations expert Dr. Taniesha Burke from Germany about the importance of parent-child relationships, how to foster them and the importance of understanding culture and meaning-making. Originally from Kingston, Jamaica, with its’ more hierarchical, autocratic parenting style, Dr. Burke studied and discusses how Jamaican mothers perceive closeness and intimacy and how they deal with their children who resist parental rules and requests. You can purchase her journals here: The Parenting Journal: Key To Strengthening Your Parent-Child Relationship Rediscovering Our Love: A Parental Appreciation JournalJournal of Generations: A Gift From Grandparent To Grandchild Dr. Burke’s research: An Exploration of Jamaican Mothers’ Perceptions of Closeness and Intimacy in the Mother–Child Relationship during Middle Childhood Jamaican Mothers’ Perceptions of Children’s Strategies for Resisting Parental Rules and Requests Links to Dr Burke’s social media handles: www.facebook.com/drtanieshaburkewww.instagram.com/drtanieshaburkewww.youtube.com/@drtanieshaburkewww.linkedin.com/in/tanieshaburke***************************I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com

Mollie Thorn has been teaching parent education and also counselling families for decades.  Mollie is now a proud grandparent and that means yet another application of Adlerian wisdom! She discusses the Pennsylvania Dutch expression “Grin, Bite Your Tongue and Bear Gifts” to describe best grandparenting practices. We talk about Mollie and her husband Phil’s journey with Adlerian psychology over the years. You can find more about Mollie Thorn’s work at The Pinnacle Centre. Her profile on Psychology Today You can email Mollie directly at mollie.thorn@gmail.com

Q1. 12 year old boy doesn’t play, but instead annoys and bothers others. Q2. 5 year old in kindergarten has a friend who says “you’re not my friend” if they don’t get their way. Do you have a parenting question for me? Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com 

Having kids invites a host of other problems into the martial relationship if they are not addressed properly. Unfair division of labour, feeling unappreciated, changes in intimacy levels, a drop in the fun experienced together, power imbalances, and more can plague a relationship.  The good news is these issues are an invitation to dig deeper and grow together. Join Adlerian marriage counsellors Calvin Armerding and his business partner Lindsay Hill for more insights into kid-proofing your marriage. Follow Calvin on his Substack channel here: https://calvindarmerding.substack.com/Follow Calvin and Lindsay on social media: https://www.instagram.com/henosispress/ https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLe4ACV00vWcS3DTATvos1XVm2MhTKSq2Z https://www.instagram.com/travelersrest.counseling/ https://twitter.com/ArmerdingC***************************I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com

In this special episode, I speak with Fabiana Bacchini, the Executive Director for The Canadian Premature Babies Foundation (CPBF) about the difficult challenges a family faces when having a premature birth, and the tremendous support their organization provides. We discuss a very important campaign that is underway to support their work. In partnership with Walmart Canada®, Pampers® Canada will donate 8 cents to the CPBF and Préma-Québec for every Pampers® Swaddlers diaper pack and for every pack of Pampers® Sensitive Wipes sold at Walmart from May 1 to June 30, 2024. This funding will go towards support programs for families of premature babies, including mental health and wellness resources.For more information about CPBF’s support programs, visit: www.canadianpreemies.org   For more information about Préma-Québec’s support programs, visit: www.premaquebec.caThose who would like to donate to the CPBF and Préma-Québec through this initiative can purchase Pampers® Swaddlers diaper packs and Sensitive Wipes in store at any Walmart location in Canada.For more information, please visit pampers.ca.***************************I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com

Meaghan Haley discusses her journey from a trauma-filled childhood that led her to seek out support from an Adlerian counsellor, to becoming an Adlerian therapist and teacher herself.  Now she is the mother of three young children (ages 5, 2.5 and 1) and she is being challenged to practice what she has learned in a whole new way. If you worry about being a “good enough” mom, give this a listen! Check out Meaghan here at www.megtherapy.comDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it in to  hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com 

Q1. 6th grade girl is the target of a mean “best friend”. Q2. My kids live in a two-household arrangement, and the other home doesn’t have structure. Q3. 16yr old daughter changed schools halfway through the school year and while she has a couple of new friends, she still stays in room and is lonely.Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com 

Q1. How do we talk to our kids about racism and the George Floyd riots? Q2. My son saw the video of George Floyd’s murder. How do I help him process his emotions? Q3. What can I do as a white parent to ensure I don’t raise a racist and do my part to eradicate racism? Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Q1. How do I get my 12 yr old son who has become moody, to open up and talk to me about what is wrong?Q2. My kids are starting to play on the street with social distancing rules, but I don’t trust them to actually keep their distance. What do I do?Q3. My 8 year old son is exhibiting anxiety in going out in public now that more things are opening up. How do I help him?Q4. The whole family has become snappy and I am yelling more. Everything is a battle. How do I get my family back on track?Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com