Parenting The Adlerian Way

In this special episode, I speak with Fabiana Bacchini, the Executive Director for The Canadian Premature Babies Foundation (CPBF) about the difficult challenges a family faces when having a premature birth, and the tremendous support their organization provides. We discuss a very important campaign that is underway to support their work. In partnership with Walmart Canada®, Pampers® Canada will donate 8 cents to the CPBF and Préma-Québec for every Pampers® Swaddlers diaper pack and for every pack of Pampers® Sensitive Wipes sold at Walmart from May 1 to June 30, 2024. This funding will go towards support programs for families of premature babies, including mental health and wellness resources.For more information about CPBF’s support programs, visit: www.canadianpreemies.org   For more information about Préma-Québec’s support programs, visit: www.premaquebec.caThose who would like to donate to the CPBF and Préma-Québec through this initiative can purchase Pampers® Swaddlers diaper packs and Sensitive Wipes in store at any Walmart location in Canada.For more information, please visit pampers.ca.***************************I am always looking for questions for the Q&A episodes. You can send me your questions at hello@alysonschafer.com For more of my advice, check out my website: www.alysonschafer.com

Meaghan Haley discusses her journey from a trauma-filled childhood that led her to seek out support from an Adlerian counsellor, to becoming an Adlerian therapist and teacher herself.  Now she is the mother of three young children (ages 5, 2.5 and 1) and she is being challenged to practice what she has learned in a whole new way. If you worry about being a “good enough” mom, give this a listen! Check out Meaghan here at www.megtherapy.comDo you have a parenting question for me? Send it in to  hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com 

Q1. 6th grade girl is the target of a mean “best friend”. Q2. My kids live in a two-household arrangement, and the other home doesn’t have structure. Q3. 16yr old daughter changed schools halfway through the school year and while she has a couple of new friends, she still stays in room and is lonely.Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com 

Q1. How do we talk to our kids about racism and the George Floyd riots? Q2. My son saw the video of George Floyd’s murder. How do I help him process his emotions? Q3. What can I do as a white parent to ensure I don’t raise a racist and do my part to eradicate racism? Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Q1. How do I get my 12 yr old son who has become moody, to open up and talk to me about what is wrong?Q2. My kids are starting to play on the street with social distancing rules, but I don’t trust them to actually keep their distance. What do I do?Q3. My 8 year old son is exhibiting anxiety in going out in public now that more things are opening up. How do I help him?Q4. The whole family has become snappy and I am yelling more. Everything is a battle. How do I get my family back on track?Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Q1. I am using your Adlerian parenting approaches but my husband has not studied them yet. How can I manage our different parenting styles? Q2. I am trying your techniques on ignoring when the kids fight and just walking away, but they follow me or they get physical with one another. What do I do?Q3. My kids are using Zoom calls to stay connected with friends but when I check they were being disrespectful and just watching a friend play instead of visiting with one another.  Q4. My daughter is using tech to stay connected with her friends more since Covid. Now that they are all online, they are excluding my daughter on FaceTime group chats like “mean girls”.Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Alyson’s thoughts on education and homeschooling during Covid. Q1. My daughter struggles with math and says “I’m stupid”. How do I get her to do her online math homework without a fight? Q2. My son does his homeschooling online in the morning from his bedroom, but when I check on him, he is on YouTube. How do I get him to do schoolwork without policing? Q3. (24:24) My son won’t sit still to do his homework. He gets up and down and it ends up taking him twice as long.Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Q1. 2 yr old competitive dancer has gained a lot of weight during the pandemic and I want to bring this up to her properly, and in a healthy way. Q2. 2.5 yr old has lost interest in potty training. How do I motivate them?Q3. 7 yr old loves our new puppy but refuses to follow the rules and be gentle. What should I do? Q4. 8 yr old is loud and shrieks all the time. How do I get this to stop? I have tried everything. Alyson’s blogs on the topic of encouragement:  https://alysonschafer.com/category/best-parenting-practices/praise-encouragement/Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Q1. What are the consequences for a 12 yr old daughter who is mean to her 9 yr old brother? Q2. When is it okay to swear? My 13 year old just started. Q3. Help in bringing back and improving family meetings now that they are teenagers.Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com