Your Southern Lesbian

🌈51. Are people really doing the best they can—and if they are, what do we do with the harm they still cause? And is success always growth… or is it sometimes just a distraction from unhealed trauma?These two questions triggered the bleep out of me this week—and I’m guessing I’m not alone.In Episode 51 of Your Southern Lesbian, I’m unpacking two ideas that pulled me in opposite directions: one rooted in compassion and boundaries, inspired by Rising Strong by Brené Brown, and another sparked by a quote from coach Brian Yang that seriously challenged how I think about success and trauma.We talk about:Whether “doing your best” actually matters if harm is still happeningHow compassion without boundaries turns into resentmentA deeply personal family story about my stepfather and what boundaries look like in real lifeWhy success isn’t always healing—and when ambition might be avoidanceWhat “enough” really means as we head into 2026There’s humor, Southern rambling, British flight stories, Christmas chaos, and some real talk about trauma, growth, and choosing emotional safety without shutting your heart down.I don’t have neat answers—but I do have lived experience, curiosity, and questions worth sitting with.💬 I want to hear from you: Do you think people are doing the best they can? And how do you define success?Drop your thoughts in the comments—and help me name my very chic Christmas gift while you’re at it. 😉🌈 Connect with Your Southern Lesbian🎙️ YouTube + Podcast: Your Southern Lesbian 📱 TikTok + Instagram: @your.southern.lesbian ✉️ Sponsorships: sponsor@angelbabyfilms.studio 📍 London, UK | Charleston, SC, USA✨ Disclaimer/Reminder: I’m not a doctor—this show is for entertainment and encouragement only.

Why does falling in love feel easy but trusting someone feels terrifying? In this cheeky holiday episode, Ashley breaks down why trust takes time, why self-trust matters most, and why consistency is hotter than chemistry in 2026. If you’re tempted to text your ghoster “Merry Christmas,” this one’s for you. 🎄✨🎄 Merry Christmas, Happy Ho-Ho-Homosexual, and cheers to a 2026 filled with clarity, self-trust, and much better choices.📌 Connect with Your Southern Lesbian TikTok: @your.southern.lesbianInstagram: @your_southern_lesbian YouTube, apple, Spotify: Your Southern Lesbian TO SPONSOR: 📧 sponsor@angelbabyfilms.studio London, UK | SC, USA✨ Reminder: I’m not a doctor — everything here is for entertainment and encouragement only.

This week, Ashley digs into the #1 holiday mistake lesbians make in relationships: expecting your partner to magically know what you need without ever saying it. Silent agreements, childhood patterns, love languages, and holiday pressure all collide this time of year — and it’s easy to project your needs instead of communicating them.We talk about why mind-reading expectations create resentment, how to actually choose partners aligned with your energy, and what to let go of as we wrap up the final days of 2025’s Year of the Snake.Short, sharp, and holiday-ready — this episode is your reminder to communicate clearly, give people grace, and stop expecting psychic abilities from your girlfriend.Affiliate Links:Ashley’s Healing Reads: https://a.co/idFYLjqAshley’s Gayest Finds: https://a.co/1nFbv6BAshley’s Vegan Fashions: https://a.co/cTiZVLEConnect with Your Southern LesbianYouTube + Podcast: Your Southern LesbianTikTok + Instagram: @yoursouthernlesbianTo Sponsor: sponsor@angelbabyfilms.studioGuest inquiries: yslinfo@angelbabyfilms.studioLondon, UK | Charleston, SC, USADisclaimer: I’m not a doctor—this show is for entertainment and encouragement only. The views you hear are mine or my guest, not my sponsors. Any similarity to real people is purely coincidence.

Episode 48 of Your Southern Lesbian with Ashley Hydrick explores why letting go of old patterns, old identities, and the wrong versions of love isn’t a loss — it’s an act of faith. Ashley breaks down how clinging to familiar but unhealthy emotional habits can block clarity, connection, and healthier love as we move into 2025–2026.If you’ve been feeling stuck, repeating cycles, or holding space for someone who can’t meet you where you are, this episode offers grounded, compassionate guidance on releasing what no longer supports the life you want.Tell me where you’re listening from + if this resonated. I read every message.Connect with Your Southern Lesbian YouTube + Podcast: Your Southern Lesbian TikTok + Instagram: @yoursouthernlesbian Sponsor inquiries: sponsor@angelbabyfilms.studio Guest questions: yslinfo@angelbabyfilms.studio London, UK | Charleston, SC, USADisclaimer: I’m not a doctor—this show is for entertainment and encouragement only.

This week on Your Southern Lesbian, host Ashley Hydrick dives deep into one of the biggest myths in breakup recovery: the idea that “time heals all wounds.”If you’ve been replaying your breakup, obsessing over your ex, or waiting for time to magically do the work… this episode is your turning point.Ashley breaks down:• What healing actually is — a shift in perspective, not a countdown• The truth about your shadow side and how it shapes your relationships• How to stop attracting wound mates and start attracting alignment• Why chaos can feel like chemistry (and how to tell the difference)• How your nervous system signals the truth before your mind does• Why you can’t manifest new love with yesterday’s energy• How to understand your patterns, triggers, and inner-child wounds• And the steps to finally evolve beyond your past relationshipsWhether you’re a lesbian healing from a breakup, exploring shadow work, navigating queer dating, or rebuilding your self-worth after a painful relationship — this episode gives you tools, perspective, and the community support you didn’t know you needed.Books mentioned (Amazon affiliate links-I may earn a small commission at zero added cost to you!):Greenlights – Matthew McConaughey: https://amzn.to/3XzRJpXUntamed – Glennon Doyle: https://amzn.to/4rk1juAWill – Will Smith: https://amzn.to/4ry9L9M🌈 Connect with Your Southern LesbianYouTube + Podcast: Your Southern LesbianTikTok: @your.southern.lesbianInstagram: @yoursouthernlesbianTo Sponsor: sponsor@angelbabyfilms.studioLondon, UK | Charleston, SC, USAMedical Disclaimer:I’m not a doctor — this show’s for entertainment and encouragement only.Amazon Affiliate Disclaimer:Some links may be affiliate links. As an Amazon Associate, I may earn from qualifying purchases — at no extra cost to you. Thank you for supporting the show and this community.

Ep. 2 WHERE DID ALL THE LESBIANS GO?"In the early aughts, we had five lesbian bars to hit a week. Where did all the lesbians go now?"Hey y'all, welcome to the second episode of "Your Southern Lesbian" podcast! In this lively and candid episode, Ashley, a proud Gen X lesbian, dives into the question that has been on everyone's mind: "Where Did All The Lesbians Go?" She reflects on the disappearing lesbian spaces of the early 2000s and discusses the current challenges of dating as a mature lesbian. Ashley explores the decline of lesbian bars, the role of dating apps, and the importance of community-building among lesbians of all ages. This episode is full of humor, nostalgia, and real talk about the ever-changing lesbian culture, with shoutouts to iconic lesbian events like Dinah Shore and thoughts on modern LGBTQIA+ dynamics.Tune in for laughter, stories, and a passionate call to connect, share, and build community, no matter where you are in life.Timestamps:[00:00] - Intro & Welcome to the Podcast[01:45] - Nostalgia: Lesbian Bars and the Early 2000s Scene[05:30] - Where Did All the Lesbians Go?[08:15] - Dating Challenges for Mature Lesbians[12:00] - Exploring the Apps: Hinge, Match, and More[17:45] - Chelsea Handler, Straight Women, and Lesbian Porn?[21:00] - Dinah Shore: The Ultimate Lesbian Spring Break[25:30] - Building Community & Supporting Each Other[30:00] - Lesbian Inclusivity: Navigating Trans and LGBTQIA+ Discussions[35:15] - The Importance of Creating Spaces for Connection[40:00] - Wrap-Up: Building Community in a Changing WorldKey Topics Covered:Lesbian culture and disappearing social spacesDating as a mature lesbianUse of dating apps for lesbians: the pros and consNostalgia for the vibrant lesbian bar scene of the early 2000sThe importance of community, especially in uncertain timesInclusivity within the LGBTQIA+ communityHow to meet other lesbians outside of bars and appsSubscribe, like, and comment below! Join the conversation by sharing your thoughts on where all the lesbians have gone, the best dating apps, and how to build stronger lesbian communities.Feel free to suggest topics for upcoming episodes—this is an interactive podcast, and your voice matters!WORK WITH ME / SUPPORT THE SHOW🏳️‍🌈SUBSCRIBE to the Podcast 📺 🎤on YOUTUBE:✍️ Contact: LSouthernA@outlook.com💖 Buy-me-a-coffee: https://ko-fi.com/yoursouthernlesbian📱 TikTok & YouTube: @YourSouthernLesbian