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Becoming the Person Your Person Wants to Meet
Episode 3: Becoming the Person Your Person Wants to Meet
What if the reason you haven't met your soulmate yet has nothing to do with timing—and everything to do with becoming?
In this deeply personal episode, Claire Khodara shares the pivotal moments that transformed her life, from addiction and heartbreak to American Idol, self-discovery, and the realization that changed everything: you won't meet your person until you become the person your person wants to meet. Through stories of love lost, lessons learned, and the evolution of The List, Claire explores why boundaries matter, how loneliness can become your greatest teacher, and why clarity—not chasing—is the true path to lasting love.
If you've ever wondered why you keep attracting the wrong people, struggle to let go of relationships that no longer serve you, or feel like your person is taking too long to arrive, this episode will remind you that you're not waiting—you're becoming. Because the greatest love story begins with becoming your truest self.
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2. Finding Your Soulmate Starts With You
07:58||Season 1, Ep. 2Why do we keep attracting the wrong people? Why does love sometimes feel so much harder than it should?In this deeply personal episode, Claire Khodara shares the story that inspired The List—from the heartbreak of being rejected by Princeton to unexpectedly singing at the Vatican, navigating toxic relationships, and learning that the greatest love story begins with the relationship you have with yourself. Claire reveals why creating "the list" wasn't about manifesting the perfect partner, it was about gaining clarity, breaking painful patterns, and becoming the person she was always meant to be.If you've ever struggled with rejection, sought validation from others, or wondered why you keep repeating the same relationship cycles, this episode is for you.In this episode, you'll learn:Why clarity is the foundation of lasting loveHow rejection can redirect your life for the betterThe hidden patterns that keep you attracting the wrong relationshipsWhy honesty with yourself is the key to transformationHow becoming your authentic self naturally attracts deeper connectionYour soulmate isn't the prize for getting lucky. They're often the by-product of becoming who you were always meant to be. If this episode resonates with you, be sure to follow the podcast, leave a review, and share it with someone who's ready to find themselves before finding love.
1. Welcome to The List
09:59||Season 1, Ep. 1Welcome to The List.What if finding your soulmate has less to do with luck—and everything to do with becoming the person you're meant to be?In the debut episode of The List, Claire Khodara shares the extraordinary story behind the manifestation practice that transformed her own life. Long before she met her husband, Claire was exhausted by dating, repeating the same patterns, and wondering why love always seemed just out of reach. Then one unexpected question changed everything: "Have you made your list?"What followed became a deeply personal journey of radical self-discovery, accountability, intuition, and manifestation—one that ultimately led her to the love of her life.In this episode, Claire introduces the philosophy behind The List: a transformative practice that goes far beyond writing down your ideal partner. She explains why clarity is everything, why "doing the work" is non-negotiable, and how the energy you embody determines the relationships you attract.You'll learn:Why you attract who you are—not just what you want.The surprising origin of "The List."The four foundational steps to manifesting your soulmate.Why self-awareness is the greatest relationship tool you'll ever develop.How this practice can transform every area of your life—not just love.Whether you're single, dating, healing from heartbreak, or simply ready to create a more intentional life, this episode is your invitation to begin.This isn't about finding someone else. It's about finally finding yourself.Welcome to The List.