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16. Why You Resist Change and How to Move Through It

Season 2, Ep. 16

You probably think you resist change because it’s inconvenient, annoying, or badly rolled out. But that’s not the real story. When something shifts at work, your nervous system runs a threat assessment before your conscious mind ever weighs in. Today you’ll learn the biological and psychological reasons change feels harder than it “should,” plus specific tools to move through it without spiraling, stalling, or sabotaging yourself.

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