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Ep. 125 Why You’re Going Wrong In Relationships & How To Fix It (Attachment Theory, Explained)

Ep. 125

Most of these solo episodes so far have been around mindset but today we’re venturing into the world of relationships, and more specifically attachment theory & i've enlisted world famous couple's therapist Julie Mennano to help me give you an overview. Let me know if you enjoy this topic & I'll do longer episodes on it as I find it fascinating!


The original book I read on attachment theory is Attached - Amir Levine & Rachel Heller


The School of Life Talk I watch on repeat from Alain Botton is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-EvvPZFdjyk


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JULIE MENNANO

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesecurerelationship/?hl=en

Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Secure-Love-Create-Relationship-Lifetime-ebook/dp/B0C27HVKTL


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READING LIST

Secure Love - Julie Mennano

Attached - Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

How To Do The Work - Dr Nicole LePera

Relationships - The School of Life


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MY LINKS: https://gracebeverley.komi.io/


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CHAPTERS

0:00 Introduction

1:58 The Context

2:58 The Theory

5:59 The Data

8:19 The Expert

12:52 The End & next episode

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