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My mom left one night and didn’t come back until seven years later because things got hard - Hermes

Season 7, Ep. 47

His mother woke up one morning and abandoned him, his father and siblings without a

reason, he watched his father being slapped by touts right in front of him in the uncompleted building where they lived, as the man tried to navigate debilitating poverty with dignity and grace, and he survived multiple moments when his life could have been destroyed.



Yet, Hermes Iyele is that rare human being who has looked deeply into the nature of

life and being, and in the midst of hardship and broken dreams, found beauty and joy still.


We talk about how he survived those dark days, how he fought his way through the slums, how

he found his way into Big Brother and what it did to him, and we also explored his complex

relationship with polyamory - one partner in Nigeria and another in Europe and what that has

taught him about love and lust.


I have spent a while trying to find the perfect time to share what I consider a transcendent,

timeliness conversation, and I finally felt in my spirit that the time is here.


Take my word for it. This one was pure light.


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