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DAVID BROOKS: How to be humanist in cruel times

Ep. 130

David Brooks (New York Times columnist; best-selling author) is both one of America’s best-known conservative commentators and one of its most committed to pushing the case for deep moral discussion. David’s also a regular contributor to The Atlantic and NBC’s “Meet the Press”, has 30 honorary doctorates, is a teacher at Yale and is something of a regular guest on Oprah, the Sam Harris podcast and so on. He wrote the books The Road to Character, The Second Mountain and the recently published How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply Seen.


In this nourishing conversation we discuss whether humanism – coming back to moral, generous interactions with others – is the fix for our polarising times. We discuss whether you can be “right” with the Middle East conflict, the best-ever dinner party conversation starters (the only kind I’m interested in doing), and whether civilizational collapse is preventable. He has ideas…


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David's book How to Know a Person: The Art of Seeing Others Deeply and Being Deeply See is available now, along with The Road to Character and The Second Mountain.

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