Why Didn't You

This week on Why Didn't You, Mia tells her story of surviving rape and exploitation. Mia Döring is a writer and psychotherapist from Dublin, specialising in sexual trauma. She is the author of the brilliant memoir, 'Any Girl', and in this episode, discusses her experiences of rape, grooming and exploitation -Key facts and stats: episode 4-One in four Irish women have experienced physical and/or sexual violence Irish Observatory on Violence Against Women nwci.ie/images/uploads/IOVAW_GREVIOS.pdf-One In five have been raped and more than half experienced sexual violence. 78% know the perpetrator  Central Statistics Office  cso.ie/en/releasesandpublications/ep/p-svsmr/sexualviolencesurvey2022mainresults/-All the below from Rape Crisis Network Ireland rcni.ie/wp-content/uploads/RCNI-Rape-Crisis-Statistics-2020-FINAL.pdf33% of those whose abuse began between 13 and 17 said it lasted several years. The vast majority abused by a partner/ex-partner.65% of survivors didn’t report -All the below NSPCC nspcc.org.uk/about-us/news-opinion/2023/2023-08-14-82-rise-in-online-grooming-crimes-against-children-in-the-last-5-years/Almost 34,000 online grooming crimes against children were recorded in the last 6 years. 6,350 Sexual Communication with a Child offences were recorded last year (2022/23). An 82% increase since 2017/18. Where gender was known, 83% were against girls. -There are approx. 72,800 prostitutes in the UK — 88% are women Home Affairs Committee publications.parliament.uk/pa/cm201617/cmselect/cmhaff/26/26.pdf-More than one in ten British men say they have paid for sex Home Office report assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/842920/Prostitution_and_Sex_Work_Report.pdf-Below from EVE (previously 'exploited voices now educating') prostitutionresearch.com/men-who-buy-sex-london-2009/24% of 'punters' said 'rape' doesn't apply to women in prostitution.27% said that the customer is entitled to any act he chooses with the woman he buys.If you are in need of support or advice:(Grooming) Call Stop it now! – People in the UK and Ireland can call for free on 0808 1000 900 NSPCC - 0808 800 5000, email help@nspcc.org.uk or fill in our online form.ruhama.ie/ - if impacted by sexual exploitation, prostitution and human trafficking Victim Support 0808 1689111 victimsupport.org.uk

This week on Why Didn't You, something a little different.After our first two episodes, listeners (you!) have been curious about the personal experiences of creator & host Terri White. So, in this one-off episode, Terri tells her story - including an incident she's speaking about for the first time and the rape myths she's faced and/or that drive her potty. This ep. covers class, mental heath, assault and child abuse. This is Terri's testimony. Next week, she'll be back to hearing yours.-Key facts and stats in ep 3 (with sources)-1 in 6 children have been sexually abusedrapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence -Sexual offences against children breached 100,000 for the first time in 2021-2022csacentre.org.uk/documents/child-sexual-abuse-in-2021-22-trends-in-official-data/-5 out of 6 children attending sexual assault referral centres in 2021-2022 were female csacentre.org.uk/documents/child-sexual-abuse-in-2021-22-trends-in-official-data/-Over a third of all police-recorded sexual offences are against children learning.nspcc.org.uk/media/1710/statistics-briefing-child-sexual-abuse.pdf-90% of child abuse victims knew their abuserlearning.nspcc.org.uk/media/1710/statistics-briefing-child-sexual-abuse.pdf-Poverty and inequality is accepted as a driver of harm to childrenresearch.hud.ac.uk/media/assets/document/hhs/RelationshipBetweenPovertyChildAbuseandNeglect_Report.pdf-There are over 4 million kids living in poverty in the UK. 44% of children in lone-parent families are in povertycpag.org.uk/child-poverty/child-poverty-facts-and-figures-1 in 10 women believe they've been spiked. 40% of people don't think police would believe themyougov.co.uk/society/articles/44863-one-ten-women-say-they-have-had-their-drink-spiked-If you need support or advice:NSPCC helpline 0808 800 5000 help@NSPCC.org.ukChildLine (under 19) 0800 1111 childline.org.ukVictim Support 0808 1689111 victimsupport.org.ukRape Crisis England & Wales 0808 500 2222 rapecrisis.org.ukRape Crisis Scotland 08088 010302 rapecrisisscotland.org.uk

Ellie Wilson tells us her story of surviving sexual assault.From the personal devastation wrought by the attacks, to her experience in the Scottish criminal justice system, defiance in the face of 'rape myths', and determination to improve the future for those survivors who will come after her.-The key facts and stats in episode 1 (with sources)-Rape complaints in Scotland are at highest level on record and have increased. Rape/attempted rape by 5% in 2023 from the previous yearSource: gov.scot/publications/recorded-crime-scotland-year-ending-june-2023/pages/3/)-Of the 2,176 rapes or attempted rapes reported to police in 2020-21, only 152 led to a prosecution. Source: gov.scot/publications/criminal-proceedings-scotland-2019-20/documents/-In 2021-22, 51 per cent of rape and attempted rape trials resulted in a conviction, compared with a 91 per cent rate for crimes overall. Source: gov.scot/publications/criminal-proceedings-scotland-2019-20/documents/-1 in 4 women (in England & Wales) have been raped or sexually assaulted as an adult-1 in 2 rapes against women (in England & Wales) are carried out by a partner or ex-partner-On average, adult rape cases in England & Wales take more than 2 years to complete in courtSources for above: https://rapecrisis.org.uk/get-informed/statistics-sexual-violence/If you are in need of support:Rape Crisis Scotland can be contacted on 08088 010302 or rapecrisisscotland.org.ukRape Crisis England & Wales on 0808 500 2222 or rapecrisis.org.uk