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The Idea of You (2024) with Ashley Hufford

Season 1, Ep. 16

Jack and Nora are joined by theatre content creator Ashley Hufford to discuss #27 on Vanity Fair’s list of the 42 Best Romantic Comedies of All Time: The Idea of You. In this episode, Nora has opinions about onscreen texting, Jack really wants a sandwich, and Ashley doesn’t believe that anyone actually works in an art gallery. Grab your VIP pass, head to Coachella, and let’s feel… everything!


Topics include:

  • Differences between the book and film
  • Men written by women
  • Having a song in your heart

Mysteries we still haven’t solved:

  • Why do people hate when women are happy?

Where to find us:

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Join the conversation! Give us your take on the films we cover, which romcoms you think should be on the list, or your best “would do/ wouldn’t do/ have done” stories on socials or at mail@whenrommet.com.


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