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to coach .. or to align - that is the question

Season 3, Ep. 3
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in this week's episode of what's my 100%, dené shares a self-proclaimed unpopular opinion about chivalry and why coaching someone into being the partner you want might be doing more harm than good. she explores:


  • the question of whether we're building a solid sense of self or looking outside ourselves for a blueprint
  • why letting someone show up organically, even if it means they might not show up at all, tends to feel so much more healing than getting exactly what we asked for
  • the overfunctioner / underfunctioner dynamic and how quickly a romantic partnership can start to feel parentified when one person is quietly managing everything
  • the hard truth underneath overfunctioning that staying busy handling everything can feel safer than the vulnerability of simply being chosen



upcoming workshops and events:



you can find more information on these events and connect with dené further at the links below:


web: denelogan.com

IG: @dene.logan

TikTok: @denelogan

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