Share

cover art for Getting Attached

What The Nanny Heard

Getting Attached

Ep. 86


Charlotte, Charlie and Millie discuss attachment, and how those bonds affect both children and Nannies.


The ladies dissect the importance of attachment figures for children. It’s not about competing with parents — it’s about championing the children. Realistically it is not uncommon for a Nanny to wake a child in the morning and put them to bed five days a week, so creating a secure attachment is imperative.


They explore how strong attachments can be managed while always remaining professional. How do children process a nanny leaving? What emotions do they experience?


Millie and Charlie also share how they feel about the idea of their children becoming attached to other important people in their little lives.


Charlotte’s DMs:

Hello, WTNH, I am wondering if you think it’s OK for me to babysit for my employers’ friend? I did this last week and now my employer is very cross with me.




Podcast link:

Your Nanny Network Tickets: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/your-nanny-network-live-event-tickets-1989115944335


Get in touch:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641

Email: yournannynetwork@gmail.com

Website: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/


YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely.  Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date.


More episodes

View all episodes

  • 92. Putting Our Own Children into Nursery/Childminder

    41:24||Ep. 92
    In this episode, Charlotte, Charlie and Millie discuss what it's really like when childcare professionals become parents and have to choose childcare for their own children.Does working in childcare make the decision easier because we know exactly what to look for in a great nursery and can quickly spot the red flags? Or does it make it even harder to hand over our precious little ones, knowing no one will care for them quite like we do?The ladies explore how it feels to watch your own child form attachments with nursery staff, compared with supporting Nanny children through the same experience. Does seeing attachment from the other side give Nannies a greater understanding of parents' emotions and decisions? They also discuss whether childcare providers feel extra pressure when caring for the children of parents who work in the childcare profession.Millie also speaks candidly about her decision to become a childminder, sharing how she expects it to change both her family life and her career—for better and for worse.Charlotte’s DMsI got to work last week and my boss’ friends toddler was there. And it was just assumed that i would look after her. This has happened before but this time they went out and left me with the 2 toddlers. Is this OK?Get in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: yournannynetwork@gmail.comWebsite: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely. Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date.
  • Nannying Whilst Managing Menopause

    40:50|
    Charlotte, Charlie and Millie tackle the often-taboo subject of menopause and its impact on the Nannying profession.As more Nannies continue working through perimenopause, menopause and beyond, they discuss the realities of adapting to the physical and emotional changes while maintaining the high demands of the role. The conversation explores the importance of open, professional communication with employers about changing needs and workplace support.The ladies share practical advice on balancing professionalism with the challenges menopause can bring, while also considering the role Nannies can play in normalising conversations about women's health with the children in their care. By encouraging openness rather than silence, they highlight the value of education and understanding across generations.The discussion also shines a light on the wider inequalities faced by Nannies, with menopause serving as another example of the limited workplace protections and recognition available to those working in private households.Charlotte’s DMsIve been asked to go on holiday with my Nanny family or take the time off. If I take the time off, do they have the right to make me pay the hours back?Podcast LinksMenopause checklist: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/resource-libraryacas: https://www.acas.org.uk/menopause-at-work/supporting-staff-through-the-menopauseGovernment Overview: https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/creating-an-action-plan-guidance-for-employers/overview#supporting-employees-experiencing-menopause
  • 90. Country Jobs Versus City Life

    37:52||Ep. 90
    Charlotte, Charlie and Millie debate the pros and cons of nannying in the city versus the countryside.From the convenience of public transport and vibrant social opportunities to the freedom, space and slower pace of rural life, each setting offers its own unique advantages and challenges. The ladies explore how location can impact a Nanny's work-life balance, social life and even their dating prospects.They also discuss whether city or country roles are more effective at preventing burnout, if one lifestyle is truly more relaxing than the other, and how a Nanny's autonomy can differ depending on their environment. Do children enjoy greater independence in the countryside, or does city living offer its own freedoms?The conversation also touches on budgets, expectations and family dynamics, asking whether country roles tend to be more down-to-earth and how this can influence the nannying experience.Charlotte, Charlie and Millie compare two very different ways of life and consider which setting might be the best fit for both Nannies and the families they support.Charlotte’s DMsHave you ever been in a position where you are wanting to reduce the hours you’re currently employed to do? I am really stuck. I want to reduce my hours but I know it'll be a pain in the neck for my employers. I know that they work full time and I know they need me 5 days a week. It's just guilt now that's holding me back. I want to basically reduce my hours to do 3 days a week, maybe 4. I really don't know what to do or how to approach the situation. Please help!Get in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: yournannynetwork@gmail.comWebsite: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely.  Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date.
  • 89. The Family You Never Forget

    43:05||Ep. 89
    Charlotte, Charlie and Millie reflect on the roles that have shaped their careers, exploring both the highs and the lows of life as a Nanny.Every position teaches us something. The positive experiences often help us identify what we value most in a role—whether that's travel, proxy parenting, shared care, or a particular family dynamic—while the more challenging moments show us what we'd rather leave behind.The ladies discuss how different roles can influence our confidence, both positively and negatively, and the lasting impact this can have on our professional development. They also explore how certain jobs can unexpectedly shape our career paths, helping us discover new strengths, interests and ambitions along the way.Join them as they share personal experiences and insights into the lessons learned from the families and roles that have helped define their Nannying journeys.Charlotte’s DMsMy boss has told me that they don’t need me on their holiday. They have set me lots of tasks to do deep cleaning the whole house, cleaning the garden etc etc, is this allowed?Get in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: yournannynetwork@gmail.comWebsite: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely.  Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date.
  • 88. Confidentiality, Curiosity and Keeping Quiet

    30:51||Ep. 88
    Charlotte, Charlie and Millie explore the unique privilege—and responsibility—of being entrusted with a child's secret. When should a nanny keep a child's confidence, and when is it necessary to share information with parents?Drawing on their own experiences, they discuss how Nannies can navigate these delicate situations, including how to handle conversations with a child when information may need to be disclosed. They also consider how to support parents who may feel hurt or excluded when their child chooses to confide in their Nanny rather than in them.The conversation also covers safeguarding responsibilities: how to recognise when a concern goes beyond confidentiality, who a Nanny should speak to, and the appropriate steps to take when a child's safety or wellbeing may be at risk.Charlotte, Charlie and Millie share practical advice and professional insights to help Nannies balance trust, communication and their duty of care.Charlotte’s DMsI am a live in Nanny and I wanted to have some friends over to my work house and my boss said no. Should I be allowed friends over?Get in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: yournannynetwork@gmail.comWebsite: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely.  Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date.
  • 87. Dealing with Family Crises

    38:05||Ep. 87
    Charlotte, Charlie and Millie offer advice for Nannies navigating family crises, from bereavement and divorce to major household changes.They discuss the role of the Nanny when working conditions shift — including changes to hours, communication and treatment — and how long difficult situations should reasonably be tolerated.The episode also explores safeguarding concerns, where professional boundaries should lie, and how Nannies can handle sensitive situations appropriately. The ladies discuss how to remain professional, avoid becoming involved in parental conflict, and stay neutral while continuing to support the children.Charlotte’s DMs:I love the podcast and just wondered what you find the most rewarding part of your job?Podcast link:Your Nanny Network Tickets: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/your-nanny-network-live-event-tickets-1989115944335Get in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: yournannynetwork@gmail.comWebsite: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely. Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date.
  • 85. When Two Worlds Collide

    41:47||Ep. 85
    Charlotte, Charlie and Millie discuss the wealth gap between Nannies and their employers.How do Nannies manage the wealth that their employers are displaying whilst asking you to be frugal. How can Nannies keep the children in their care grounded, whilst feeling they are on an upward struggle. The ladies discuss the key indicators that Nannies are working with high-net-worth (HNW) families, and the pros and cons that come with these households.Charlotte’s DMs:My new job started 3 months ago. And the kids are still telling me how much they miss their previous Nanny and how their previous Nanny is the best Nanny theyve ever had. I am trying not to take it personally but i am starting to feel a little sad.Podcast link:Your Nanny Network Tickets: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/your-nanny-network-live-event-tickets-1989115944335Get in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: yournannynetwork@gmail.comWebsite: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely. Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date.
  • 84. Safety Security & Sense

    53:38||Ep. 84
    Charlotte, Charlie and Millie discuss the often overlooked safety protocols. Yet they’re essential for every Nanny — especially when working solo with no one to call on in an emergency. The ladies discuss the key safety procedures all Nannies should know, how to handle unexpected situations calmly, and when to rely on formal risk assessments versus personal initiative and experience.From managing safety at home to navigating the wider world with children, they share practical advice on staying prepared, alert, and confident in high-pressure moments. Topics include car seat safety, first aid kits, digital safety, and the everyday decisions that help keep children safe.Charlotte’s DMsI’ve just started Nannying and I look after a toddler and a baby. What are your favourite things to do in London with the kids you look after?Podcast Links:Resource Library:Emergency Contact List: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/resource-libraryGet in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: yournannynetwork@gmail.comWebsite: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely.  Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date.