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Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 213 - "Self Love Series: The behaviors that can heal your self love wounds" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideHow can we love ourselves if we don't even like ourselves? Well, the short answer is we can't. The good news is, now that we know about the unsupportive and supportive levels of self connection, we can learn how to actually move from unsupportive to supportive. Join us this week as we discuss the behaviors that heal our self love wounds, and how to use these behaviors to move through the layers on our self love journey.In this episode we cover:Claire's confession and why we're not getting into our level of connection with others this weekWhere our inability to love ourselves usually stems fromAcknowledging the level we're truly atThe positive and negative relationships between self love and needs being metUsing the layers of self connection to move along our self love journeyHow do you stop hating yourself?The antidotes for beginning to release toxic behaviorsThe simple phrase that has helped many of our clientsThe behaviors that can heal the self love woundsCreating the next layers of connection with ourselvesEmbracing our inner weirdosTaking the time to create, sustain and embody our self connectionEpisode References:The unsupportive self connection episode - Episode 211 - Self Love Series: Unsupportive self connectionThe supportive self connection episode - Episode 212 - Self Love Series: Supportive self connectionTrauma series -Episode 86 - What is trauma?Episode 87 - How do you identify trauma Episode 88 - How to heal trauma and triggersThe toxic positivity episode - Episode 39 - Just HOW toxic is Toxic Positivity?The episode about hard and soft boundaries - Episode 101 - Boundaries Series: What exactly ARE boundaries?The episode where we talk about the Star Trek shields - Episode 28 - An antidote to anxietyThe but/and episode - Episode 143 - Get your But out of here

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 212 - "Self love Series: Supportive self connection" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideAs the episode title says, self love is a journey and our journey together continues. This week we'll be discussing the supportive end of the self connection spectrum. Tune in to find out how we can begin creating our own paths to self love.In this episode we cover:Review of the self-connection spectrumSerena learns a new wordWhat levels are in the supportive self connection spectrum?The behaviors that show up in each of the supportive spectrum layersWhy the layers are ordered as they areHow we can begin to create and move closer to self loveThe levels of learning and how they apply to the self love journeyAntidotes to the unsupportive self connection spectrumWhat's got Serena thinking of ballsThe client who thought they were further along their self love journeyFeeling vs showing - how do you treat yourself when you are at these levelsEpisode References:The unsupportive self connection episode - Episode 211 - Self Love Journey - Unsupportive self connectionThe Selfirst Series - Episode 20 - Selfirst Series: What is Selfirst? Let's get specific…Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibilityEpisode 22 - Selfirst Series: A safe space vs a comfortable space, how a comfortable space can actually cost your needsThe episode about the difference between nice and kind - Episode 67 - People Pleasing Series - The problem with putting others firstThe Guilt and Shame Series -Episode 43 - The difference between guilt and shameEpisode 44 - That's not guilt, it's shame in disguiseEpisode 45 - That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanityThe episode where we talk about the levels of learning - Episode 35 - Self worth Series: The link between self worth and self careThe episode about the Love Need variation - Episode 200 - One of the Universal Needs is CHANGING!The Shapes Series - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachEpisode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulThe Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachThe Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachThe other "shapes" episodes -Moving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneThe Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of movies

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 211 - "Self love Series: Unsupportive self connection" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideWeeeeeeeee're Baaaaaaaaaack! It's the first episode of season 5 and we're going on a journey...a self love journey that is. There's a lot of pressure in today's society to love ourselves and the truth of the matter is, many people don't love themselves. On this episode we're going to get into the unsupportive stops along our self love journey that are important in getting to our destination. Tune in to find out how just because we don't feel the love doesn't mean we are not on the journey to do so.In this episode we cover:How one "simple" slide in our program turned into (at least) a four episode seriesThe misconceptions about self loveThe three parts to the self-connection spectrumWhat levels are in the unsupportive self connection spectrum?The behaviors that show up in each of the unsupportive spectrum layersStarting with the small wins, small steps and small thingsOwning where we are at, not where we "should be" and moving in the direction of self loveNot realizing when we're actually on the self love journeyFaking it till we make itThe action of loveHow to begin showing love to ourselvesEpisode References:The episode on the small wins and small steps - Episode 174 - Just one small thingThe episode about not meeting needs that aren't your responsibility - Episode 21 - Selfirst Series: The difference between doing harm and not meeting needs that were never your responsibilityThe Empowerment Ecosystem episodes -The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachThe Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor Approach

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 210 - "SEASON FINALE: Why you're never to old to learn how to meet your needs (or to benefit from them being met)" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideDo you believe it's too late to make a significant change in your life? If so, you're not alone. Change can be hard and uncomfortable and it can also be the thing that leads us to true happiness and fulfillment. Join us on this episode where we're talking all about change and how it's never too late to learn to begin meeting your needs and start making the changes in your life and relationships that will have you living your best life.In this episode we cover:What's in store for our season breakThe difference between something working and just being familiarUsing tools to get us to our destination fasterComing to terms with change and the best time to make changeHow to change and navigate those changesThe importance of choice in changeLetting go of what isn't workingMicrodosing changeStarting where we have the capacity and then testing your capacityAn invitation for during the breakEpisode References:The episode on microdosing discomfort - Episode 209 - Microdosing discomfort to build your capacity for itThe episode on supportive discomfort - Episode 188 - What is supportive discomfort?The episode about the life conveyor belt - 136 - Why you might not WANT the goal that you THINK you do…especially when it comes to weight lossThe episode on resilience - Episode 51 - How to increase your resilienceThe Empowerment Ecosystem episodes -The Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachThe Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor Approach

Well Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 209 - "How you can microdose supportive discomfort to build your capacity for it" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideMost of us do not like being uncomfortable and will do whatever we can to avoid it. What if we told you the path to comfort often lies in being uncomfortable. Tune in to today's episode where we discuss how to build our capacity for supportive discomfort and find out how microdosing discomfort can actually help us to create more of what we want in life.In this episode we cover:The seasons are changing...ours not the weatherThe comfort we want to be focusing on and whyWhat we mean when we say microdose discomfortIdentifying the needs that are up when we are uncomfortableHow we can begin microdosing discomfortMicrodosing discomfort in your relationshipsChoosing the right people to microdose withClearing niggles with others and yourselfWhat to consider before microdosing discomfortAcknowledging the discomfortComing out on the other side of microdosing discomfortThe role our nervous system plays in microdosingWhen we're on the receiving end of the uncomfortable conversationEpisode References:The episode on supportive discomfort - Episode 188 - What is supportive discomfort?The episode on unsupportive discomfort - Episode 189 - Why it's not always helpful to get comfortable with being uncomfortableThe clearing niggles episode - Episode 61 - Friendship Series: Clearing NigglesThe shoulda, woulda, coulda episode - Episode 208 - Shoulda, woulda, coulda down the shame spiralThe gremlin episode - Episode 199 - Do you have an inner Gremlin? Are you feeding it without realizing?The episode about the relationship orbits - Episode 17 - Apology Series: What to do when you're waiting for an apology that will never come

***Trigger Warning - Death of parent, caring for sick parentWell Sh*t. It really is that simple - Episode 208 - "Shoulding Series - Shoulda, woulda, coulda down the shame spiral" is now LIVE!Full Show notes: https://bit.ly/WellShitEpisodeGuideShoulda, woulda, coulda...we know we've said it more than once and we don't believe we are alone in that. The past can be full of shoulda, woulda, couldas that are impacting our needs in the present. In this episode we're going to talk about facing and dealing with our shoulds and how to turn shoulda, woulda, coulda into something that will actually support our needs.In this episode we cover:Looking at and resourcing your needs in the presentThe guilt and shame tracks and where they both leadCatching yourself on the shame spiralIs it better to stay in the present or return to the pastDealing with shoulds when we can't redo themSerena's trip down the shame spiral when her mom passed awayThe importance of giving ourselves graceFinding which unresolved barriers are holding us backThe gifts within the shouldsDealing with shoulds when we can redo themApplying past shoulds to present actionsThe alternative to shoulda, woulda, couldaEpisode References:The first episode in our Shoulding Series - Episode 206 - Shoulding Series - Why shoulding on yourself, or others, negatively impacts your needsThe second episode in our Shoulding Series - Episode 207 - How to shift your shouldsThe Guilt and Shame Series -Episode 43 - The Guilt & Shame Series: The difference between guilt and shameEpisode 44 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's shame in disguiseEpisode 45 - The Guilt & Shame Series: That's not guilt, it's an attempt at manipulating your humanityThe episode we refer to the inner critic - Episode 92 - How to deal with the inner critic and inner saboteurThe Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Shapes Series - Episode 159 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 1) - The Victim ApproachEpisode 160 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 2) - The Persecutor ApproachEpisode 161 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 3) - The Rescuer ApproachEpisode 162 - How to know if the way you're meeting your needs is disempowering (Shapes 4) - Why the Rescuer Approach is so harmfulThe Creator Approach episode - Episode 163 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 5) - The Creator ApproachThe Supporter Approach episode - Episode 164 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 6) - The Supporter ApproachThe Contributor Approach episode - Episode 165 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 7) - The Contributor ApproachThe other "shapes" episodes -Moving from disempowering to empowering - Episode 166 - How to meet your needs in empowering ways (Shapes 8) - How to move from a disempowering approach to meeting your needs to an empowering oneThe Harm Dynamic episode - Episode 167 - The Harm Dynamic (AKA the abuse dynamic) - focusing on actual harm and the impact of it (Shapes 9)Episode 168 - How do the Interaction Dynamics apply to children and power dynamics? (Shapes 10)Episode 169 - Understanding the shapes in the context of moviesNotes:Download The Apology Blueprint PDF here: https://theuniversalneeds.com/Apology