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S1 Bonus Q&A Episode

Season 1, Ep. 13

This is our MAILBAG episode!


Emily and Kristen (our guest from Episode 5) answer questions submitted by you!


Becoming HER is a podcast by We Are HER — a nonprofit dedicated to providing community to survivors by helping them become Healed, Empowered, and Restored.


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Host: Emily Kempe

Album Photography: Morgan Pearson morganleepearson.com

Album Artwork: Andrea Benson

Show Editing and Production: Auideo auideo.com


For more info, please visit www.weareher.net.

You can send your thoughts and questions to our host at emily@weareher.net.


Disclosure: The information covered represents the views and opinions of the guest and does not necessarily represent the views or opinions of We Are HER. The mere appearance of Content on the Site does not constitute an endorsement by We Are HER. The Content has been made available for informational and educational purposes only. We Are HER does not make any representation or warranties with respect to the accuracy, applicability, fitness, or completeness of this Content. We Are HER does not warrant the performance, effectiveness, or applicability of any sites listed or linked to any in any Content. The Content is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice. Always seek the help of a mental health professional with any questions you may have regarding your own healing.

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