We Don't Talk About That with Lucas Land

Lucas talks with Ashley Bean Thornton about working with the community, the role of experts, and how to invite mean people to breakfast.Show NotesHurricane Katrina Recovery and History – https://www.nationalgeographic.com/environment/natural-disasters/reference/hurricane-katrina/How to Be Everything by Emilie Wapnick – https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/31307672-how-to-be-everythingThe Powers That Be by Walter Wink – https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/62029.The_Powers_That_BeBig Green Egg (Not a sponsor…yet!) – http://biggreenegg.comAct Locally Waco – https://www.actlocallywaco.org/Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey – https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/36072.The_7_Habits_of_Highly_Effective_PeopleSupport the Podcast – https://wdtatpodcast.com/support-the-podcast/Leave us a voicemail! https://www.speakpipe.com/wdtatpodcastEmail your feedback to wdtatpodcast@gmail.comFollow us:Facebook –https://www.facebook.com/wdtatpodcastInstagram – https://www.instagram.com/wdtatpodcast/Twitter – https://twitter.com/wdtatpodcast

This is a bonus episode about the holidays, what makes it difficult, and hopefully something to lift our spirits and give us hope in what is a hard time for many people.Halloween is over. Holiday decorations and Christmas stuff have been on the shelves for a couple months now. Most of us have some mixed feelings about the weeks and months ahead. For some of us, Christmas was magical when we were growing up, full of wonder and surprise. We grow up and that magic fades for a lot of reasons. Life gets hard and busy and messy, but we still long for, hope for a spark of those moments to break into our lives during this season. Sometimes we try so hard to make it happen, to create the magic, for ourselves or for our children that we end up with just stress and anxiety.For others, the holiday season just serves as a reminder of so many things that are wrong or broken. It’s a reminder of the people that are missing from the dinner table for one reason or another, the people we have lost, those who were taken by tragedies, or diseases, or just time, those who left by suicide, those who are lost in their addictions. No matter what happened, there is an absence that lingers in the air whether we talk about it or not.For some this time that is idealized as one of welcome and belonging feels more like rejection and loneliness. We don’t live up to the expectations of our families or loved ones in some way or another and we feel acutely our differences and our unwelcome. We long for connection, but find instead isolation and heartbreak.For some of us maybe it doesn’t feel so tragic, but we are uncomfortable. We feel uneasy with the materialism of the season. We can’t afford the kind of season that our kids have come to expect. We’re worried about money, but don’t want it to ruin the festivities. We don’t know how to respond when our relative inevitably says something offensive or that makes us uncomfortable. We are tired of listening to it, but don’t want to pick a fight.For these and so many reasons we can feel like we are hanging by a thread during this time. The smallest thing might unleash emotions in a torrent of tears or obscenities. We can feel fragile and unsure of what to do. We hope that we can at least survive, get through the worst of it, and try to forget about it until next year.Maybe there are some things we can do to try and make the holidays a little better, one small step at a time, with realistic expectations.I want to share a story that might help. It’s called The Christmas Shoes… just kidding… that’s a terrible story and very problematic. Sorry, not sorry, if you really like that story, but maybe that’s a topic for another episode…I have found some solace in the story of Santa Claus… No, not that guy on the Coca-Cola can… not the Miracle on 34th Street guy either… not even the Kurt Russel version from The Christmas Chronicles… that one was kind of fun though.No… I’m talking about Saint Nicholas. The real historical figure who lived during the third century in a village called Patara in what is now the country of Turkey. That’s right the real life Santa Claus was also a Middle Eastern guy who looked a lot more like the bad guys in most 80s action movies than Ed Asner or Tim Allen.“His wealthy parents, who raised him to be a devout Christian, died in an epidemic while Nicholas was still young. Obeying Jesus’ words to “sell what you own and give the money to the poor,” Nicholas used his whole inheritance to assist the needy, the sick, and the suffering. He dedicated his life to serving God and was made Bishop of Myra while still a young man. Bishop Nicholas became known for his generosity to those in need and his love for children.”When I had kids, I wanted to find ways to make the holiday season more meaningful for us as a family. One of the things I decided to do was tell them about the real historical Saint Nicholas. It was my way of getting out of the...

Lucas talks to international conflict mediator and consultant Elise Willer about her work, tips and tricks for dealing with conflict, and the little man that lives inside me.Show Notes:Border Immersion Experience – http://iglesiacristorey.wixsite.com/borderimmersionAnnunciation House – https://annunciationhouse.org/Praise Sandwich – https://www.rightattitudes.com/2008/02/20/sandwich-feedback-technique/The Inner Observer – https://ieaninepoints.com/2018/10/22/inner-observer-practiceDifficult Conversations by Doug Stone – https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/774088.Difficult_ConversationsThe Ladder of Inference by Chris Argyris – https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newTMC_91.htmInterspace Negotiation or Bargaining – https://healthtrustpg.com/professional-development/resolving-conflict-and-negotiating-for-change/Getting to Yes! by Roger Fisher – https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/313605.Getting_to_YesSupport the Podcast – https://wdtatpodcast.com/support-the-podcast/Leave us a voicemail! https://www.speakpipe.com/wdtatpodcastEmail your feedback to wdtatpodcast@gmail.comFollow us:Facebook –https://www.facebook.com/wdtatpodcastInstagram – https://www.instagram.com/wdtatpodcast/Twitter – https://twitter.com/wdtatpodcast

Luis Matias Cruz talks about growing up Zapotec, moving to the city, falling in love, and moving to the US.Show NotesZapotec – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zapotec_peoplesMonte Alban – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monte_Alb%C3%A1nEthnocide – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/EthnocideTribal Nations Maps http://www.tribalnationsmaps.com/Native Lands App https://native-land.ca/Even the Rain (También La Lluvia) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1422032/México Profundo: Reclaiming a Civilization by Guillermo Bonfil Batalla https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/525381.M_xico_ProfundoRepression and Rebellions in Southern Mexico – https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13221911-repression-and-rebellions-in-southern-mexicoCambas – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/CambaCollas – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/QullaArthur Gish – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arthur_GishPeople’s History of the United States by Howard Zinn https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2767.A_People_s_History_of_the_United_StatesFollow us:Facebook –https://www.facebook.com/wdtatpodcastInstagram – https://www.instagram.com/wdtatpodcast/Twitter – https://twitter.com/wdtatpodcastEmail your feedback to wdtatpodcast@gmail.com

Luis Matias Cruz talks about growing up Zapotec, moving to the city, falling in love, and moving to the US.Show NotesZapotec – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zapotec_peoplesMonte Alban – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monte_Alb%C3%A1nEthnocide – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/EthnocideTribal Nations Maps http://www.tribalnationsmaps.com/Native Lands App https://native-land.ca/Even the Rain (También La Lluvia) https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1422032/México Profundo: Reclaiming a Civilization by Guillermo Bonfil Batalla https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/525381.M_xico_ProfundoRepression and Rebellions in Southern Mexico – https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/13221911-repression-and-rebellions-in-southern-mexicoCambas – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/CambaCollas – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/QullaArthur Gish – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arthur_GishPeople’s History of the United States by Howard Zinn https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/2767.A_People_s_History_of_the_United_StatesFollow us:Facebook –https://www.facebook.com/wdtatpodcastInstagram – https://www.instagram.com/wdtatpodcast/Twitter – https://twitter.com/wdtatpodcastEmail your feedback to wdtatpodcast@gmail.com

Amanda Moore shares her journey with chronic illness, helps us with what to say and what NOT to say, and educates us on inspiration porn. Asking questions is a kindness!Show NotesBriars in the Cotton Patch https://www.briarsdocumentary.com/Koinonia Farm http://koinoniafarm.org or https://youtu.be/GXjL5J3toHYEhlers-Danlos Syndrome https://www.ehlers-danlos.com/what-is-eds/Everything Happens with Kate Bowler https://katebowler.com/podcasts/Jameela Jamil https://www.imdb.com/name/nm3553139/Inspiration Porn with Stella Young at TEDxSydney 2014 https://youtu.be/SxrS7-I_sMQZebras – https://www.ehlers-danlos.com/why-the-zebra/For Memes and such – Amanda Moore Facebook page https://m.facebook.com/amanda.moore.336How to avoid using ableist language http://deareverybody.hollandbloorview.ca/resources/tips-and-tools/how-to-avoid-using-ableist-language/Ableism – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/AbleismThe Mighty https://themighty.com/Email Amanda Moore amanda@koinoniafarm.orgFollow us:Facebook –https://www.facebook.com/wdtatpodcastInstagram – https://www.instagram.com/wdtatpodcast/Twitter – https://twitter.com/wdtatpodcastEmail your feedback to wdtatpodcast@gmail.com

Lucas gets corrected by Vance Blackfox for not listening close enough. We learn about the history of the Two-Spirit movement and what it’s like to grow up Cherokee, Lutheran, and Two-Spirit!Show NotesTwo Spirits, One Heart, Five Genders https://newsmaven.io/indiancountrytoday/archive/two-spirits-one-heart-five-genders-9UH_xnbfVEWQHWkjNn0rQQ/Two-Spirit Wikipedia entry https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Two-spiritTales of the City https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0106148/Tales of the City 2019 https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7087260/List of Resources from Vance Blackfox https://nativephilanthropy.org/truthandhealing/toolkit-2/Other+Wise http://otherwise.redNative Americans in Philanthropy https://nativephilanthropy.org/This Land Podcast https://crooked.com/podcast-series/this-land/Follow us:Facebook –https://www.facebook.com/wdtatpodcastInstagram – https://www.instagram.com/wdtatpodcast/Twitter – https://twitter.com/wdtatpodcastEmail your feedback to wdtatpodcast@gmail.com

Lucas talks to filmmaker Lucy D’Cruz about her film My Body, Their Choice about the abortion debate in Argentina. We discuss Argentina’s “La Loca del Bebito” or Crazy Baby Lady and ways we can try to have better dialogue and understanding about abortion, the sacredness of life, and women’s health.Links for the Documentary Abortion: My Body, Their Choice:Campaign: https://igg.me/at/mybodytheirchoiceFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/mybodytheirchoice/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mybodytheirchoice/ @mybodytheirchoiceTwitter: https://twitter.com/My_Body_Film @My_Body_FilmShow NotesThe World’s Abortion Laws – https://reproductiverights.org/worldabortionlawsJust Facts article on Abortion – https://www.justfacts.com/abortion.aspHesperian Health Guides – https://www.ipas.org/news/2019/March/hesperian-health-guides-launches-multilingual-safe-abortion-appAbortion in Argentina – http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abortion_in_Argentina Abortion in Bolivia – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abortion_in_BoliviaNi Una Menos (Not One Less) Campaign – https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ni_una_menos2016 Reuters article about My Body, My Choice Ireland campaign – https://www.reuters.com/article/us-ireland-abortion/thousands-march-in-dublin-abroad-for-irish-abortion-rights-idUSKCN11U0J2 YouTube: The Bubbles' W.T.F. 01: "The Crazy Baby Lady" – https://youtu.be/pw0XquW9Kaw The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust – https://ectopic.org.uk/Family Planning Association – https://www.fpa.org.uk/Planned Parenthood – https://www.plannedparenthood.org/