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Ep 98: Your 'Victim Mentality' is a Choice: Why You’re Actually Addicted to Your Own Failure.

Stop lying to yourself. In this episode, Henny Moody is stripping away the excuses and calling you out on the "victim mentality" that is keeping you stuck in a cycle of mediocrity. If you’re still blaming your past, your ex, or your circumstances for where you are today, you are choosing to stay small.


This is your Full System Override. We’re talking about the radical power of Active Ownership - the realization that you chose every path that led you here, and therefore, you have the power to choose a different one. Henny breaks down how to stop being a "broken woman" and start becoming the magnetic, high-standard baddie you were meant to be. Learn how to reverse-engineer your future, tighten your protocols, and refuse to ever settle for less again. The old you is dead. It’s time to activate the Villain Era.

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