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From Pill to Parenthood, with Coni

Season 2, Ep. 18

What happens when you spend 15 years on hormonal contraceptionm and then have to relearn your body from scratch?


In this episode, Coni, co-founder of period underwear brand NIXI Body, shares her journey from being prescribed the pill for teenage acne, to navigating infertility, cycle syncing, pregnancy, and now early motherhood.


We talk about the messy reality behind women’s health: how hard it is to advocate for yourself with doctors, the silence around infertility, and the complicated mix of empowerment and guilt that comes with cycle syncing. Coni also opens up about her fertility struggles, the emotional toll of “just relax” advice, and what it’s really like to balance running a business with having a newborn.

But this conversation goes far beyond contraception and fertility. We explore period shame, the role of community, and why creating products like period underwear is about so much more than comfort. It’s about changing culture.


We cover:

🩸 What it feels like to be on (and come off) hormonal contraception for over a decade

🩸 Why knowledge is power — but also a double-edged sword

🩸 Infertility, and the emotional toll of trying to conceive

🩸 The reality of cycle syncing for work, exercise, and life

🩸 Period shame, stigma, and breaking taboos through products

🩸 The juggle of business ownership, pregnancy, and motherhood

🩸 Why shared parental leave is still radical in 2025


Whether you’ve struggled with contraception, fertility, or simply want to understand the link between hormones, identity, and womanhood, this episode is raw, honest, and empowering.


Find Coni:

Instagram@conilj

NIXI Body@nixibody / www.nixibody.com


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