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A compliment can be a real can of worms. Even a well intentioned compliment can set off a chain of emotional and psychological outcomes for a person, and this week the hosts sort out the reasons why that may be. Citing a well researched bbc.com article called “Why it’s so hard for some people to accept compliments” (Christine Ro, April 2024), Jeremie and Bryde discuss the impact of cultural and behavioural factors on the subject and have come up with some best and worst practices when it comes to compliments. Listen with some reassurance that if you’re “bad at taking compliments”, you should probably just not worry about it. For a deeper look, check out the article here.

Puberty is a horrendous time when you don’t know what the fuck is happening to your body, mind, and worldview. Remember the tortuous days of sitting out of gym class because there was a pad in your underwear, or getting a nickname because of your body odour?Demetra Malios is an entrepreneur in tech and is the CEO and founder of Pu-berry, a platform offering interactive, gamified, and medically verified education to help young people navigate puberty with confidence. Demi shares the stats and incredible outcome measures of success with this platform, and the kids, schools, and parents who interact with it. She also explains the allure of adorable fruit emojis incentivizing youth to learn what they need to know to better understand themselves and everyone around them. This is knowledge for life!Check it out at puberry.org!Sign-up for Puberry's web app here!Puberry Giveaway!Open until Dec 18th, 2024. Raising Empowering Young Girls Giveaway (Puberry x Penguin Random House Collaboration)

Everyone's horny and sexual function is for every body, AND there are some unique considerations for folks living with disability when it comes to personal pleasure. This week, Anna breaks down a literary review that discusses the historical context for studying sex and disability, as well as the positive aspects and particular challenges to sex positivity. A mind-opening conversation is had about how our misconceptions of what disability feels and looks like may be limiting how we see the sexual identity of others, and even perpetuate it unconsciously. The conversation also covers Jeremie's new nightmare, the Homunculus, as well as a heartwarming anecdote about a real best friend facilitating a sexy session for his buddy. Listen to get smarter. Study:https://compass.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/soc4.12508?casa_token=_kvPPo72SpkAAAAA%3A-QXXwUOCX-Ks1YWZ6nzWN2Clkl5o5r36poLp_sm7BNz_pIBsF3FqcyiUE4DZ7ypTVSnTLhN5RtPf-Go

William A Moore is making (wet) dreams come true by providing penis enhancements that blow the competitors out of the water. Lips, cheeks, butts, boobs, of course there’s also filler for a penis you might want to plump up. Moore chats with the hosts about PhalloFill, a non-invasive procedure using hyaluronic acid to help someone reach their girth goal. They chat about the contraindications (of which there are few), the implications of body dysmorphia as a red flag for treatment, and the importance of choosing safe, reversible options. There are physical, mental, and relational benefits such a procedure can offer and if you love someone who would love to be more of a shower, share this episode. How cozy does it sound to curl up in bed spooning a newly girthy penis? For more: https://phallofill.com/

Disney should really produce an adult, kink-themed experience for all the now grownups who first became aware of their fantasies after seeing them depicted by cartoon characters in beloved childhood movies. How did “Peter Pan” influence a young, religious cult community escapee to become her fully expressed self? Read all about it! Ariel Anderssen joins the hosts this week to discuss the life trajectory she covers in her memoir, “Playing To Lose: How a Jehovah’s Witness Became a Submissive BDSM Model”. She describes the loneliness of trying to come to terms with her desires in the age before the internet could show her that she wasn’t alone. When Ariel finally connected with right medium for her passions, she blossomed into a creator of a wide variety of content that elevates how we can all think about sex-work and self expression, and she shares some of her favourite sub activities with the hosts, as well as safety advice for those looking to get into. modelling. For more of this “knotty” sub, order her memoir and check out all of her socials here:Twitter: https://x.com/ArielAnderssenYoutube: @ArielsTwilightYearsWebsite: https://www.arielanderssenauthor.com/

What if closeness was overwhelming to your senses? For neurodivergent individuals, sensory avoidant or sensory seeking behaviours can cause havoc in relationships if not properly understood. The good news is that communication, no surprise, can make a world of difference. This week the hosts sit down with certified somatic sex coach and trauma specialist, Nuria Reed, and the conversation takes some twists and turns, including some thoughts on spiritual frameworks for healing, a chaotic kundalini awakening, and the impact of aging and shifting values on personal identity. This is a unique conversation for and from unique minds, and a reminder that self acceptance is key to healing, and that healing happens in relationship.Find more of Nuria's offerings at www.nuriareed.com or on Instagram @nuriareed

Sex education rests in the hands of the media and serves the objectives of capitalism - sounds healthy and pleasurable, right? So not sexy. To undo this, let’s go back to school on the subject of childhood development. Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers is chatting with the podcast hosts once again, revisiting and diving deeper into the implications of abstinence only sex education and purity culture, and how we can make the future happier and healthier for the next generation by liberating ourselves from sexual shame. Dr. Tina gives a breakdown of the capacity for understanding verbal and non verbal cues about sexuality throughout the developmental stages of childhood, and the impact those cues have to our brains, bodies, and relationships. The hosts have questions about the significance of the language we use to name body parts, the link between purity culture and violence against women, and like, wtf is the madonna/whore complex? Finally, Dr. Tina shares her latest work with psychedelic assisted therapy and some inspiration for what that therapeutic approach can offer to those of us wanting to liberate ourselves perhaps a little more efficiently!This is a great follow up to the podcast's first conversation with Dr. Tina back in December 2022. Listen to that episode for some great information about the origins of abstinence only sex-ed and how it has physical and psychological outcomes on a person akin to the experience of childhood sexual trauma.Learn More:InannaRising.orgtinaschermersellers.comInstagram: @DrTinaShameless@inanna_rising_pat

Sometimes the biggest challenges in a relationship come from within, and sometimes they come from how the world sees us. This week, Anna explores a study on intimacy and sexuality from the perspective of partners of transgender and non-binary individuals. She delves into the complexities of gender dysphoria during intimacy, the importance of consent and microaffirmations, and the many strategies couples use to navigate body dysphoria, such as regendering body parts or using prosthetics. Whether it's avoiding sex, or finding new ways to connect, this discussion highlights the importance of open communication in love and relationships.Link to study