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275 - How to be a Rizz God with Dr. Tara

Season 4, Ep. 275

Dr. Tara is one of the internet's favourite sex educators. On TikTok, she dishes sex and relationship advice to over 2 million followers and has a refreshing, fun approach to getting her research into the ears, minds, hearts, and other erogenous zones of folks who need it. The hosts chat with Dr. Tara about Thai cultural views on sexuality, the reciprocity rule, and how to be a Riz God. Bryde learns a new word! Check out more of Dr. Tara's offerings at

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