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Truth 2x2 Cult Kids
Barlow Breakaway with Candice
Season 1, Ep. 2
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We explore the similarities between the Truth 2x2s and a breakaway group, the Barlows, with Candice Curran.
Welcome to Episode 2 of Truth 2x2 Cult Kids Podcast, with guest Candice Curran.
Trigger Warning (TW) that this episode contains reference to sexual abuse, family violence, coercion, spiritual and religious abuse.
Candice was raised in the Bob Barlow Group, a breakaway group of the Truth 2x2s in Queensland Australia.
In this episode we explore the similarities between the two groups, the shared history and theology. We explore how Bob Barlow took a lot of the behaviours and the culture of Truth 2x2s and created a similar group under a different name. This is one of my concerns with the current exodus of Truth 2x2 Friends around the world, post Dean Bruer fall out – that people will leave and create break away groups without deconstructing from Truth 2x2 ideology.
Candice is a teacher and has a deep concern about the treatment of women and children inside high control groups such as the Bob Barlow and Truth 2x2s. We explore themes of pressure to marry (coerced and pressured marriage), comphet and purity culture, physical disciplining of children, shame, guilt.
Show Notes:
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Links to Support:
LBH good trauma informed, cult sensitive therapists and support are hard to find. Please persist and try to find one that works for you. If you’re in a tough spot right now, please know you’re not alone.
Here are some links to AU NZ supports and therapists which might be useful.
https://www.thereligioustraumacollective.com/
As an Australian CSA survivor, the best support I’ve accessed at my lowest points, has been through Survivor Hub - https://www.thesurvivorhub.org.au/
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