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Life Beyond the Pain of Divorce with Adrianna Onubogu

Ep. 98

What comes after divorce? For many women, it can feel like starting over from scratch. 


In today’s episode, Adrianna Onubogu, a life and divorce coach, talked about how women can rebuild their confidence and navigate life after divorce. Adrianna shared her own experience as a divorced woman and explained how she transformed that chapter into an opportunity to help others. We explored topics like the emotional hurdles women face after separation, the importance of self-forgiveness, and the process of rebuilding self-worth. Adrianna also offered practical strategies to heal, set boundaries, and rediscover joy.


For anyone looking to reclaim their life, rediscover their value, and embrace new beginnings, this episode is for you! Tune in now!


KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • The importance of healing after divorce, focusing on acceptance and self-forgiveness.
  • Recognizing patterns that lead to unhealthy relationships and breaking them to avoid repeating mistakes.
  • Rebuilding confidence and self-worth by setting boundaries and raising standards.
  • How societal and cultural expectations, especially for Black women, affect emotional freedom.
  • The role of coaching and safe spaces in helping women express and process their emotions.
  • Finding joy and fulfillment in life before pursuing a new relationship.
  • Tips for being intentional in dating, both online and offline.
  • Learning to ask yourself, “Who am I?” and “What do I truly want?”

VALUABLE RESOURCES

BEST MOMENTS

“If you’re waiting for someone to apologize, you could be waiting forever. That’s holding yourself emotionally hostage.”


“Confidence isn’t just a buzzword—it dictates boundaries, standards, and how you approach life.”


“Ask yourself: Who are you outside of being a mom, a partner, or an employee? Start there.”


“The most attractive thing about a woman is when she truly loves the life she’s living.”


“Don’t wait in a holding pattern for someone else to land in your life. Start living now.”


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