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How to Date Confidently as a Curvy Woman with Christina Gonzalez

Ep. 88

Do you think dating is hard? It’s time to shake things up! In this episode, Christina Gonzalez, the amazing Curvy Girl Dating Coach and host of the Curvy Girl podcast, shares her journey and helps plus-sized women date with confidence. She’s been where many of you are, struggling with self-doubt about dating while being plus-sized.


Christina talks about how she went from feeling unworthy because of her weight to becoming a certified dating and life coach. She emphasizes that it’s not about losing weight for someone else but about understanding your own motivations and being happy with who you are. Christina also shares practical advice on how to approach dating with a positive mindset and how to avoid settling for less. Christina offers tips on making dating feel less like a job interview and more about genuine connection. She encourages women to be visible and confident, whether they're on online platforms or out in the real world. Enjoy the episode!


KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • The impact of weight on self-worth and dating confidence.
  • How to handle questions about weight and dating.
  • Advises on creating a social calendar and getting out to meet people.
  • Tips for natural conversation during dates to avoid sounding like an interview.
  • Online Dating Profile Tips
  • Dealing with Non-Responsive Messages
  • Feminine energy in dating
  • How your choice of clothes can affect how you feel and present yourself.


BEST MOMENTS


“Your weight has nothing to do with your ability to find love. Like, you are already 100% lovable, and you just gotta find that person.”


“Dating selectively is a total mind shift. And being able to know that you have choices and that you can say no and you can say yes, and you can get the kind of person that you want.”


“Don’t be afraid. Don’t wait. We’re in a new world now. You don’t have to wait to be asked out on a date.”


"Prepare yourself to be positive and ready to show up to a date confidently."



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