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How BDSM Can Help Heal Trauma and Boost Emotional Growth with Jayden Aubrey
Can BDSM be a path to healing deep emotional wounds?
We sit down once again with Jayden Aubrey, a Black queer, non-binary trauma therapist, to explore the profound connection between BDSM and trauma recovery. Jayden shares how the dynamics of dominance, submission, and consensual power exchange can help individuals reclaim their sense of control and heal from past emotional wounds, particularly in cases of sexual trauma. They explain the therapeutic parallels between BDSM and other methods like drama therapy and EMDR, focusing on how reenactment in a controlled setting can release stored trauma. They also talk about essential topics such as the role of consent, negotiation, and aftercare in creating safe spaces for emotional healing and self-exploration.
Whether you dissociate during intimacy or are simply curious about the healing power of BDSM, Jayden sheds light on how these practices can foster deeper self-awareness and help rewrite your narrative.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- Trauma Healing Through BDSM
- Importance of negotiation and consent in BDSM practices
- The importance of self-exploration and communication in relationships
VALUABLE RESOURCES
- Website | tiseconsultingandtherapy.com
- LinkedIn | Jayden Aubryn
- Facebook | www.facebook.com/jayden.aubryn
- Chaotic Healing on Spotify
- Website | Tiseconsultingandtherapy.com
- Instagram | @Tiseconsultingandtherapy
- Patreon.com/TISEConsultingandTherapy
BEST MOMENTS
"BDSM is really specific under that kink category to power exchanges... there’s also a lot of active communication and ongoing, enthusiastic consent."
"Learning how to stay in your body and notice when you’re starting to dissociate—this will be helpful in healing trauma."
"Once we do something different, that traumatic energy is released out of our body."
"You start working on your trauma, your relationships are going to change."
“In BDSM, it’s important to negotiate what you’ll do. Practicing non-judgment about your preferences and sharing them helps heal trauma.”
CONTACT THE HOST
- Website | www.thereikihealingcoach.com
- Instagram | @sophia_i_got_ig
- Instagram | @createlifeyourway
- Facebook | www.facebook.com/sophia.e.754
- LinkedIn | Sophia Elcock
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