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Conscious Uncoupling with Debbie and Peter Ison

Ep. 109
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Conscious Uncoupling with Debbie and Peter Ison


In today’s episode of the Tranquil Awakenings Podcast, Debbie will be in conversation with Pete as they share their journey of ending their relationship of 19 years. In this deeply personal podcast, Debbie and Pete talk about this process and how they are working to focus on kindness, friendship, and therapeutic healing.

 

Whilst recognising that they each have a different perspective on their relationship transition, they are working to be mindful of how each other is doing, positive communication, and acknowledging all feelings are valid.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

  • It is important to take time for self-care.
  • When a relationship comes to an end, a grieving process takes place.
  • Our response to a situation can make a difference as to how we feel about ourselves and others.
  • When a relationship ends, it can also have an impact on others within families and social circles.
  • It is important to be congruent with yourself and compassionately express your truth.
  • There is the possibility for relationship endings to transition smoothly.
  • Self-awareness is beneficial for navigating relationship endings.

 

BEST MOMENTS

  • ” I think it's easy for anyone to forget that we change and evolve all the time. And just because once you tried to broach a subject with someone and didn't get the response that you were hoping for, it doesn't mean that that subject's always off the table.”
  • ”This is why I'm always a big advocate of that it's really important to have therapy. It should be something we do just in the same way as we go to the gym, or we have a healthy diet, or we go to the doctors when we need, we should be doing that self-care.”
  • ”Because it's genuinely, for the large part, this is a positive experience. It's really bizarre now that that doesn't mean that I loved you any less or you know, it doesn't take anything away from the importance, the magnitude of our relationship. It was huge and I'm so grateful for the 19 years that I've been blessed with. And you know, there's clearly more years to come because we've got the children and we'll be in each other's lives."
  • “ And as much as emotionally, this felt horrible. Mentally, it felt like my head was a complete mess. That intuitive feeling felt like, yes, this is the right thing.”
  • ”The only feeling I could ever compare it to was my dad dying.”
  • ”I've turned to meditating morning and night. I'm journaling. I'm exercising here and there. I'm being kind to myself. I've modified my self-talk. I'm focusing on being kind to you and considerate.”
  • “We can't necessarily control those situations or the external events, but what we can control is how we choose to act and respond.”
  • “ It's a massive thing. Like I say, I've been with you all my life, so I'm trying to figure out who am as me.”
  • “ You know, ultimately that's a large part of what's got me through as well, is just knowing that I'm always in the right place at the right time.”

 

HOST BIO

Debbie is a seasoned therapist whose journey from being a primary school teacher to an adept therapist has been fuelled by her fascination with the intricacies of human nature. Equipped with advanced certifications in diverse modalities like hypnotherapy, neuro-linguistic programming, mindfulness, meditation, past life regression and many more she has honed her expertise to bring about transformative change.

As a full-time therapist and trainer, Debbie's driving passion is guiding others, as well as herself, towards their best selves. Embracing the concept of holistic beings, she firmly believes in addressing the mental, emotional, physical, social, energetic, and spiritual facets of well-being and healing.

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