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#149 Fathers Fitness Tips with Michael O’Shaughnessy
Ep. 149
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In this powerful episode of the Tom the Trainer Fitness Over 40 Podcast, I sit down with online coach Michael O'Shaughnessy, known to his clients and community as Mikey Shoco, for a deep and honest conversation about fitness, fatherhood, and the real reason so many men feel stuck.
Mikey shares his journey from competitive Muay Thai fighter to fitness coach, and how his personal story, including the loss of his father at a young age and becoming a dad himself, shaped his mission to help other men take back their confidence and health.
Mikey and I dive into the emotional and psychological weight many fathers carry when they’ve let themselves go, and how strength training, routine, and honest self-reflection can create real transformation. We discuss the challenges of coaching men between 35 and 55, why structure and simplicity are essential in workouts, and how meal planning can be both flexible and family-friendly.
The conversation also explores why intensity matters more than fancy exercises, how to program for long-term consistency, and how progress, physical, mental, or emotional, is the best motivator of all.
This episode isn’t just about lifting weights; it’s about lifting yourself up, showing up for your family, and finally becoming the man you know you're capable of being.
Whether you're a father, a coach, or just someone who wants to take back control of your health and self-worth, this conversation hits home in the best way.
Tune in and make sure to follow Michael on his socials!
Have the best day ever!
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