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TMS Hottakes: The TRUTH about Monitoring Spirits, Should Black Women Be Softer and Joining the War?

Season 5, Ep. 10

So is it true that we're in the advent of 'monitoring spirits'? Are Black Women once again being told to be 'softer' to embrace their femininity? Are we joining what seems like an imminent world war? From bringing back slang words to the Barbie 'snub', it's the latest tea served piping hot on another episode of TMS Hottakes!


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TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 MC RK?

04:43 Are you joining the war?

08:25 If you were in a zombie apocalypse who would you bring?

11:25 The Barbie Snub

17:49 Black women would get more if they were softer...?!

23:58 The truth about Monitoring Spirits

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