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This Doesn’t Count As Therapy

People pleasing isn't pleasing anyone

Season 1, Ep. 1

People pleaser:  a person feels a strong urge to please others, even at their own expense

Are you setting yourself on fire to keep others warm? Listen to find out what that means.

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