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Where do I fit in? Learning to be ‘Both Not Half’ with author and Peaky Blinders actor Jassa Ahluwalia

Season 3, Ep. 22

How can you belong if you’re only ever considered “half” of something? How can we redefine identity on our own terms?


In this episode, we’re joined by actor, filmmaker, and writer Jassa Ahluwalia. Jassa’s debut book Both Not Half is both a celebration but also a reclamation of the mixed heritage experience, centred around his ethos that we are all more than the sum of our parts. 


Born in Coventry to a white English mother and a Punjabi Sikh father, Jassa has spent his life navigating overlapping identities, challenging stereotypes, and carving out his own space in the world.


We explore Jassa’s personal journey to embrace his Sikh roots, examine his unique philosophy of self-definition, and discuss the lessons he’s learned while advocating for greater representation of mixed heritage voices in the acting industry.


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