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A LIVE Episode on 'Emotional Labour' - The New Gas-Lighting? - & How We Discuss Our Bodies on Social Media

We're back at Google's Curiosity Rooms to celebrate the launch of their Google Pixel 3 phone and we're still not over Baby Shark. On the agenda today: the zeitgeisty new buzz-phrase 'emotional labour'. What does it mean and are we using it correctly? We also discuss Sarah Michelle Gellar's thanksgiving gaffe, after she shared a pic of her in her underwear, as a 'warning' not to over-eat at Thanksgiving. Do women in the public eye hold responsibility for how we feel about their bodies? Plus, how incels are using sex robots; a powerful piece of 'ethical-dilemma' fiction about abortion; and our guardian angel Tina Brown's new podcast. 

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A Spark of Light, by Jodi Picoult

The Reddit sex robot forums radicalising men, by Jade Angeles Fitton for New Statesman

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