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The Parenting Series: Rebecca Lazarides on Becoming Mum Without Mum
Welcome to part 2 of the parenting without a parent series!
This week I'm speaking with Rebecca, a previous group circle attendee and now dear friend on her experience of becoming mum without mum. Rebecca shares with us her story of finding out she was pregnant shortly after her mum's sudden death and what pregnancy and motherhood was like during that time and continues to be. We discuss:
- Finding out your pregnant in a time of deep grief
- The pressure on mum's to sustain a healthy pregnancy whilst enduring grief
- The hidden pain points in expectant motherhood and grief such as midwife appointments, seeing other mums and their mums and so much more
- The fantasies, whether true or not, that we can create in speculation of what pregnancy and motherhood might have been like with our mums here
- How living with grief shapes mothers and how they parent
- How and where you can get support both during pregnancy, early years and beyond
As you can see, this episode is jam packed! I am so grateful to Rebecca for sharing her experience and her extensive research and passion for this topic. There is no one else I felt right to do this episode with and I'm so glad we can share it with you. Rebecca, you've moved the needle for me, truly. A chapter in my future life that once filled me with dread, in some ways no longer does and that's with thanks to you. You are living testimony that though we live with this great pain, we can and will still be loving, doting, whole mothers. You are a beacon.
References made in the episode:
Rebecca's article interview: https://www.ealingtimes.co.uk/leisure/25166970.spirit-community-helped-ealing-new-mum-rebecca/
How to refer/get support in the UK: https://www.england.nhs.uk/mental-health/perinatal/
Hope Edelman - Motherless Mothers book.
Rebecca has also privately set up a Motherless Mothers Whatsapp group chat. If you would like to join this group chat, please do get in contact with me via thegriefgang@gmail.com or comment on the social media post for this episode and we will be in touch!
Big love,
Amber xxx
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