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The Fallible Smotherboard and the Fear of Being Seen
In this episode, Dara discovers the word 'haecceity', which stems from the Latin word for 'thisness', and is used to describe the quality that makes a thing or a person uniquely themselves. He argues that this is something we cannot hide, no matter what we do.
He discusses the vulnerability of state change and how it might inform social anxiety or a dread of being seen. That leads to asking in what ways being seen benefits or threatens us. He looks at how being embattled is a very particular state that does not permit reflection or mindfulness until the state has passed.
Dara also looks at how social media makes us objectify ourselves and how that becomes a distancing dynamic that keeps us further from our true selves. He believes that many of us have become compulsive consumers of our own narratives, and that has placed us in a state of permanent presentation that we instinctively understand to be transactionary.
He wonders about what we are attracted to and what we attract, and how what we see in the world is often a reflection of how we view ourselves.
Time is also found to throw in some movie references and to give a shout out to both the new Spurs manager and an eccentric musical entertainer by the name of Earl Okin, whose memorable 1981 desire to be treated as a sex object is a distinct childhood memory of Dara's!
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01:23:44||Ep. 263In this episode, Dara is going full listicle and revisiting the albums that made up the soundtrack of his youth, from Michael Jackson's Thriller in 1982 to movie-inspired choices of the late 80s that carried him to university.Reflecting on how much the way we consume music has changed, Dara recalls vividly the experience of being immersed in entire albums at a time, almost like reading a book. Albums made sense in their entirety, not just as vehicles from which to launch chart toppers. And having the right equipment to get the best out of what was being listened to was imperative!There are experiences you can only ever have one time in your life, and hearing great artists for the first time is one of them. Dara tries to capture what that sounded like for him, from listening to peculiar albums recommended to him by an uncle, to really listening to Dylan, to being blown away by Bowie, and to making sure a special Beatles album stayed in the family home, music was always there, carrying the moment, conducting the pulse of living memory.Website: https://theclearout.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/theclearoutpodcast/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theclearoutpodcast/YouTube: The ClearOut PodcastEmail: theclearoutlive@gmail.com Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/theclearout
262. Glen Hansard and the Unquantifiable Wonder of Mojo
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261. Christopher Nolan's Odysseus - Just Another Superhero?
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260. Feeling It In Your Guts! Connection vs Fracture
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259. England's World Cup Exit - Victims of Their Own Identity Crisis?
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255. Don't Look Now - The Scariest Movie Moments of my Life
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