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AI Love Connections - The Charm of Asymmetric Ones and Zeroes!

Ep. 224

Who needs women when you've got AI? That seems to be the position of AI porn providers who seem pretty confident of their feminist credentials. How could they not be when they're taking the messiness out of porn consumption. And while men are licking their lips over their fembot fantasy, female customers are enjoying committed relationships with AI partners. Welcome to love and sex in the 21st century!


Dara tries to get his head around this landscape without losing sight of the underpinning human need for connection and being the focus of somebody else's love and desire. He thinks he's doing well with a solid 'sex-positive' attitude, but then a tech bro gives an example of what you might freely say to an AI coquette, and he has to concede that something is very off. Is misogyny being normalised, or is that an overly moralistic position?


Time is set aside at the end of the episode to pay tribute to Manchan Magan, the Irish broadcaster, filmmaker, writer and passionate advocate of Irish language and culture who passed away far too soon last week. Dara reads some passages from Magan's wonderful book "Thirty-Two Words for Field" and it is striking how few AI creations there are to be found, described, or salivated over in the etymological delight. But there are cailleachs - women to be wary of - and maybe that's just what the AI porn consumers are trying to avoid!


Guardian article on AI girlfriends: https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2025/oct/06/rise-of-ai-girlfriends-adult-dating-websites

Guardian article on AI relationships: https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2025/sep/09/ai-chatbot-love-relationships


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