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Dr. Benjamin Hardy | Why Personality Isn't Permanent

Our identity and personality are closely related, however we are lead to believe that although our identity can be altered, our personalities are set in stone. Dr. Benjamin Hardy believes that the opposite is true and that we can in fact experience lasting changes in our personalities. Take a listen to find out how to use goal setting to shape your identity and in turn, alter your personality.


Visit Dr. Benjamin Hardy's website | https://BenjaminHardy.com


Dr. Benjamin Hardy is the author of Personality Isn't Permanent: Break Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs and Rewrite Your Story


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