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“We’re Not Taught How to Handle Disappointment When it Comes to Women”: Discussing Rejection Violence by Men Against Women
In this week's episode, Calum and Dan focus their conversation on the act of "rejection violence", whereby men can become violent to women within the context of feeling rejected when their romantic or sexual advances are not reciprocated. This episode contains a content warning, so please bare this in mind when choosing to listen.
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The Danger of "No": Rejection Violence, Toxic Masculinity and Violence Against Women.
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