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The Tenderness Revolution

Mark Nepo: Becoming wise: What pain teaches us and how to go beyond fear.

Season 2, Ep. 4

International bestselling author and spiritual teacher, Mark Nepo, exudes deep wisdom and a calm presence that's rare in our world.

During this conversation, Mark describes the immense pain and suffering that he experienced in his 30s while battling a rare form of cancer that spread to his brain. Despite feeling like he'd been pushed to his absolute limits - both physically and mentally - Mark says the experience lead to the philosophy that he's known for today. Which is about having the courage to surrender to an unknowable future. 

Born in Brooklyn, New York, in 1951, Mark Nepo is the author of more than twenty books, including the New York Times number one bestseller, The Book of Awakening, which has sold more than a million copies. A renowned speaker, poet, and spiritual teacher, Mark has appeared several times on Oprah Winfrey's show, SuperSoul Sunday, and was chosen as one of her SuperSoul100, a group of inspired leaders using their gifts and voices to elevate humanity, who Oprah has described as the world's biggest trailblazers.  

Visit Mark's website here for information about upcoming events. Find him on instagram @mark_nepo. You can purchase Mark's latest book The Book of Soul: 52 Paths to Living What Matters, here

This episode was edited and produced by the show's launch co-creator and producer Aisha Chowdhry.

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