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The White Lotus Couples EXPLAINED by Psychology

Season 1, Ep. 30

In this deep dive, we use attachment theory to analyze the complicated (and often chaotic) relationships in HBO’s White Lotus — from Season 1’s toxic honeymooners to Season 2’s power-playing couples and a sneak peek at the drama in Season 3.


We explore how avoidant, anxious, and secure attachment styles show up in characters like Rachel, Shane, Tanya, Ethan, Harper, Daphne, and more. Whether you’re a psych nerd, a White Lotus superfan, or just fascinated by dysfunctional dynamics, this video breaks down what’s going on beneath the surface of these relationships — and what it says about us as viewers.


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Timecodes:

0:00 - Intro

2:07 - What is an attachment theory?

7:19 - White Lotus Season 1 Review

7:31 - Rachel and Shane

13:09 - Nicole and Mark

18:53 - Tanya and Belinda

26:00 - White Lotus Season 2 Review

26:42 - Harper and Ethan

35:29 - Cameron and Daphne

39:21 - Tanya and Greg

41:41 - Portia and Jack

45:38 - White Lotus Season 3 Review

46:14 - Rick and Chelsey

47:30 - Timothy and Victoria

49:12 - 3 Best Friends

50:13 - Saxon and Lochlan

51:40 - Greg and Chloe

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