The Successfully In Love Podcast

You’re a COO in California.On paper, everything is working. The company is growing, the team respects you, and the results speak for themselves.But it’s 11:30 p.m.You’re scrolling on your phone in the dark.Your partner is already asleep.And you can’t remember the last real conversation you had that wasn’t about logistics, work, or the kids.In this episode of Successfully in Love, high-performance relationship strategist Katarina Polonska speaks directly to COOs and senior operational leaders who are exceptional at running companies but feel increasingly disconnected, tense, or lonely at home.You’ll learn:Why COOs are uniquely at risk for relationship breakdownThe three most common relationship patterns high-achieving men fall into and how each one quietly sabotages leadership, focus, and decision-makingHow emotional disconnection at home shows up as fatigue, reactivity, risk aversion, and burnout at workWhy you can’t “optimize” your way out of relationship problems the way you do business problemsKatarina introduces The RESET Framework: Reveal, Engage, Set new rules which is a practical, no-nonsense approach designed for logical, driven leaders who want real change without blowing up their life or career.This isn’t about work-life balance.It’s about protecting your nervous system, your clarity, and your long-term legacy.If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’ll deal with this at home after the next quarter,” this episode may be the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed.You don’t have to choose between being a powerful COO and a man who’s actually connected and fulfilled at home.You can be both.

You’ve built companies. Moved markets. Maybe even taken a company public.But if someone asked your partner today, “Do you feel deeply seen, safe, and prioritized by him?” What would they say?In this episode of Successfully in Love, high-performance relationship strategist Katarina Polonska speaks directly to American male CEOs and senior executives who optimize everything in business but underinvest in the one system powering it all: their closest relationship.You’ll explore the hidden feedback loop between relationship disconnection and leadership performance and how tension at home shows up as impatience, reactivity, decision fatigue, riskier calls, and confidence that runs on fumes.Katarina breaks down three common patterns that derail both love and leadership:The Provider Mask: over-delivering financially while under-delivering emotionallyThe Problem-Solver Trap: fixing instead of understanding until your partner (and team) stop telling you the truthThe Lone Wolf Leader: carrying everything alone and calling it strength — until isolation takes overThen she gives three practical shifts you can start this week:Move from fixing to curiosityReplace “relationship performance reviews” with weekly 10-minute emotional check-insShift from “I’ll handle it” to “We’re a team”You’ll also get a simple 10-minute conversation script designed to reduce defensiveness, rebuild trust, and create a turning point without therapy-speak, dramatic overhauls, or needing your partner to “sign up” for anything.Because the quality of your most intimate relationship isn’t separate from your leadership.It’s the emotional infrastructure you lead from.

In this episode of Successfully in Love, Katarina speaks to high-performing leaders who feel admired at work but disconnected at home. She explains why being “the strong one” often started as a survival strategy and how your nervous system can stay in performance mode long after the workday ends. The same habits that make you effective in leadership (fixing, efficiency, risk management, control) can unintentionally shut down intimacy, leaving your partner feeling like you’re present physically but emotionally unavailable.Katarina breaks down subconscious relationship blocks through anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment patterns, and shows why you can appear confident and grounded at work while feeling reactive or shut down in love. She also identifies three common high-achiever traps: postponing the relationship until “after the next big thing,” managing your partner like a project, and outsourcing intimacy to work, screens, or constant busyness.To help you shift quickly without sacrificing ambition, she teaches a simple 3-Minute Reset Ritual — Pause, Presence, Permission, which is a practical way to come home as a person, not a performer. The takeaway: you’re not broken, you’re patterned and you’re allowed to have both success and deep connection.

Stop trying to fix a sexless relationship with "spiced up" date nights or fancy lingerie—it’s like putting a Band-Aid on a broken leg. If the spark is gone, it’s probably not about your libido or physical attraction. It’s usually about emotional safety and the invisible resentment building up between you two.In this episode, we break down why high-achieving professionals often end up in "roommate" marriages and why scheduling sex can actually make things way more awkward. We’ll explain how your nervous system literally shuts down intimacy when you don't feel safe, and why you need to rest and digest before you can... well, you know.

Watch my FREE Masterclass on how the Behavioral Science of Attraction will fix your relationship here: https://programs.katarinapolonska.com/silreplayoYou’ve got the career, the partner, the life — so why do you still feel something’s missing? In this episode, we explore why success, love, and “having it all” still leave so many people feeling unfulfilled. Learn the psychology behind craving, emotional emptiness, and the hidden wound of not feeling good enough. Discover how subconscious patterns shape your relationships, attraction, and self-worth — and how to finally break the cycle. If you’ve ever thought “Is this all there is?”, this one’s for you. Check all the products I have: https://stan.store/katarinapolonskaDiscover more of me at:Website - https://www.katarinapolonska.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/katarinapolonska/LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarina-polonsky/

Watch my FREE Masterclass on how the Behavioral Science of Attraction will fix your relationship here: https://programs.katarinapolonska.com/silreplayoTired of wondering why you keep attracting the wrong people — friends, partners, even coworkers? In this episode, we dig into five real signs that this pattern might be happening to you. From ignoring red flags to confusing chemistry with compatibility, we’ll unpack the subtle habits and beliefs that pull you toward the same unhealthy dynamics again and again. No overhyped “manifestation” talk — just grounded, honest insight on how to spot the cycle and start changing it for good.Check all the products I have: https://stan.store/katarinapolonskaDiscover more of me at:Website - https://www.katarinapolonska.comInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/katarinapolonska/LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarina-polonsky/