The Subspace Exploration Project

In this episode of the Subspace Exploration Project Clay and Todd meet with Sar Surmic from the Consent Academy to discuss nuance and the evolution of consent culture and the language we use to discuss it. They talk about our capacity to take on the responsibilities of intimacy any time we engage with others, and the importance of trust to heal and repair when mistakes are inevitably made.Sar Surmick is a Marriage & Family Therapist, Professor, Identity Specialist, and an internationally known consent expert. She is the founder and director emeritus of the Consent Academy and one of the authors of the Consent Primer.Episode Page: https://www.subspaceexploration.com/subspacepod/sar-surmick-nuanceConsent Academy: https://www.consent.academy/The Consent Primer: https://www.consent.academy/the-consent-primer.htmlPassion and Soul Episode 104: https://www.passionandsoul.com/blog/audio/104-sarDrunk Church on Acast: https://shows.acast.com/drunkchurch/episodes/an-exquisite-slap-introducing-sexuality-beyond-consentAvgi Saketopoulou - Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia: https://academic.oup.com/nyu-press-scholarship-online/book/51268Risking sexuality beyond consent: overwhelm and traumatisms that inciteBy Avgi Saketopoulou: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35312430/Knotty Productions: https://www.knottyproductions.com/Episode filmed at Gallery Erato in Downtown Seattle: https://www.pan-eros.org/galleryerato/

In this episode of the Subspace Exploration Project Clay & Todd get real and personal with renowned author & therapist Jessica Fern. After Hurricane Helene and the fascist-who-will-not-be-named was reelected, Jessica returns to discuss neurodivergence, jealousy, and the importance of building community in the face of catastrophe.Jessica’s Website: https://www.jessicafern.com/Episode Page: https://www.subspaceexploration.com/subspacepod/jessica-fern-returnsJessica’s First Episode: https://www.subspaceexploration.com/subspacepod/jessica-fern-parts-work

In this episode of the Subspace Exploration Project Clay & Todd talk with Dr Damon Constantinides about Joy & Intimacy in the face of Fascism. Damon, a Queer Trans sex therapist doing impactful work with queer and trans individuals and communities in and around Pennsylvania. Damon, Clay, & Todd talk about modern society’s fear of vulnerability and authentic self expression, while it turns out that’s exactly what community is built upon.Episode Page: https://www.subspaceexploration.com/subspacepod/damon-vulnerability-against-fascismDr Damon’s website: www.DrDamonC.comTrans Masc Sexual Pleasure Coaching Group: https://www.drdamonc.com/coachingTrans and Non-binary Consultation Group: https://www.drdamonc.com/tnbsupervisiongroup

In this week’s episode Clay & Todd talk with Author & Educator Lee Harrington about Self Care, meeting the emotional, spiritual, & physical needs of our subs & dominants, and the importance of clear communication. With there being so many interchangeable terms used across the BDSM community, throughout our talk we see exactly how important it is to communicate clearly. The use of highly specific language, and tools for when we are overwhelmed & have trouble articulating our physical & emotional states help us to reduce risk, and make sure that OUR needs, and the needs of our partners, are met - in our play and our dynamics.Episode Page: https://www.subspaceexploration.com/subspacepod/lee-harrington-caring-for-domsLee Harrington - https://www.passionandsoul.com/Rose Fox - https://luckybatbooks.com/rose-fox/Meow Wolf - https://meowwolf.com/Raven Kaldera - https://ravenkaldera.org/Routes of Safety - Jake Earnst MSW - https://www.mswjake.com/resourcesThe Girl Who Circumnavigated Fairyland in a Ship of Her Own Making by Catherynne M. Valente - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/9591398-the-girl-who-circumnavigated-fairyland-in-a-ship-of-her-own-making

In this weeks episode Clay & Todd talk with their friend Freddie about how their relationship with pain has changed over the years. They all negotiate some sharps play wherein Todd does some needle art on both Clay and Freddie, which will be featured in the upcoming BDSM 101 Project. Freddie is a cheerfully queer and trans artist, actor, and writer. As a student of the senses, he has been exploring the worlds of kink and ENM for 16 years, and delights in any opportunity to infodump about it. Freddie also writes, acts, and produces an audiodrama called Care And Feeding Of Werewolves.Care And Feeding Of Werewolves podcast: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/care-feeding-of-werewolves-2158750RazzumFrazzum on Fet: https://fetlife.com/users/8047623Episode Page: https://www.subspaceexploration.com/subspacepod/freddie-pain-thresholds

In this episode Todd days a pre-play check in with friend of the podcast, Freddie, aka RazzumFrazzum. Freddie is a cheerfully queer and trans artist, writer, and student of the senses who delights in the exploration of pain as pleasure.RazzumFrazzum on Fet: https://fetlife.com/users/8047623Episode Page: https://www.subspaceexploration.com/subspacepod/freddie-pre-play-check-in

This week Clay, Ronen, Ever, & Todd do a quick check-in about their trip to the Folsom Street Fair at the end of the month. What are they going to wear? How do they strike a balance between being freaks themselves and being podcasters at such an amazing event?That’s the Point: https://thatsthepoint.com/Folsom Street Fair: https://www.folsomstreet.org/Pretty Pussy: https://prettypussycat.com/The Stockroom: https://stockroom.com/collections/hoodsJockMail: https://www.jockmail.co/Episode Page: https://www.subspaceexploration.com/subspacepod/check-in-before-folsom

This week’s episode is a 2 part check-in with Dani at the Sabersmyth House to borrow a few items for a BDSM 101 Project promo shoot, discuss strap-on harnesses, the Sensory Deprivation Hood, and producing adult content. From kink practicality to designs that reduce dysphoria and increase euphoria, Dani sets out to solve for personal needs in self expression. Clay and Todd get a chance to talk more openly with Dani and reflect on how our interests and means of expression overlap.Sabersmyth: https://sabersmyth.com/ @sabersmyth on IG: https://www.instagram.com/sabersmyth/ Sabersmyth on FB: https://www.facebook.com/sabersmyth @lovesabersmyth on Twix: https://x.com/lovesabersmyth Sabersmyth on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sabersmyth Episode Page: https://www.subspaceexploration.com/subspacepod/sabersmyth-harnesses-adult-content