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Caring for Yourself & Partners w/ Lee Harrington
In this week’s episode Clay & Todd talk with Author & Educator Lee Harrington about Self Care, meeting the emotional, spiritual, & physical needs of our subs & dominants, and the importance of clear communication. With there being so many interchangeable terms used across the BDSM community, throughout our talk we see exactly how important it is to communicate clearly. The use of highly specific language, and tools for when we are overwhelmed & have trouble articulating our physical & emotional states help us to reduce risk, and make sure that OUR needs, and the needs of our partners, are met - in our play and our dynamics.
Episode Page: https://www.subspaceexploration.com/subspacepod/lee-harrington-caring-for-doms
Lee Harrington - https://www.passionandsoul.com/
Rose Fox - https://luckybatbooks.com/rose-fox/
Meow Wolf - https://meowwolf.com/
Raven Kaldera - https://ravenkaldera.org/
Routes of Safety - Jake Earnst MSW - https://www.mswjake.com/resources
The Girl Who Circumnavigated Fairyland in a Ship of Her Own Making by Catherynne M. Valente - https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/9591398-the-girl-who-circumnavigated-fairyland-in-a-ship-of-her-own-making
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