The Something to Say Podcast

Content warning: This video contains themes of sexual abuse. If you think it may be triggering for you please take care when listening. The thoughts and opinions expressed by our contributors are not necessarily those held by Something to Say.Yasemin was just four years old when the childhood sexual abuse began.What started as grooming by someone she trusted continued for more than a decade, hidden in plain sight while those around her remained unaware.In this powerful conversation, Yasemin shares how an early disclosure was misunderstood, allowing the abuse to continue until she was 17. She reflects on the devastating impact of being groomed by a family member, the courage it took to confront her abuser, and the long road through the criminal justice system that ultimately led to his conviction.Yasemin also speaks openly about the lifelong effects of childhood sexual abuse, including trauma, hypervigilance, anxiety, and the challenges survivors often face long after the abuse has ended. Her story highlights the importance of believing children, recognising the signs of abuse, and ensuring that every disclosure is taken seriously.Today, Yasemin uses her voice to help others feel less alone and to encourage more open conversations about childhood sexual abuse. She believes education, awareness, and breaking the silence are essential if we want to better protect children and support survivors.At Something to Say, we believe every survivor's story has the power to educate, challenge misconceptions, and inspire change. By listening, learning, and sharing these conversations, we can help create a safer future for children.If this episode resonated with you, please consider sharing it. Every conversation helps raise awareness of childhood sexual abuse and encourages more people to recognise the signs, believe survivors, and protect children.Subscribe to Something to Say for more survivor stories, expert insights, and conversations dedicated to preventing childhood sexual abuse and supporting those affected. 💚Yasemin is the founder of the platform @yasemincsaadvocate, focusing on mental health, CSA and world issues.To contact Yasemin across social media platforms:@yasemincsaadvocateIf this conversation resonated with you, please like, comment, and subscribe to help raise awareness and support more survivors speaking out. You van also join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access:Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SomethingtoSayYouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficial/membershipTo follow us on social media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial

Content warning: This video contains themes of sexual abuse and suicide. If you think it may be triggering for you please take care when listening. The thoughts and opinions expressed by our contributors are not necessarily those held by Something to Say. In this episode, STS sits down with Tom Chapman, founder of Lions Barber Collective, for an honest conversation about the barriers that stop many men from speaking openly about what they're going through.Drawing from his own experiences, including the loss of a close friend to suicide, Tom reflects on how that moment changed the direction of his life and led him to create work focused on suicide prevention, mental health awareness, and meaningful conversations within communities.Together, they explore why shame, fear of judgement, and ideas around masculinity can make it difficult for men to ask for support. They discuss the lasting impact of childhood trauma, including child sexual abuse, and why many male survivors remain silent for years, sometimes decades. The conversation also looks at how trauma can affect relationships, self-worth, and everyday life, even when it isn't spoken about directly.Tom shares why men often communicate more comfortably in environments that feel safe and non-judgemental, why changes in behaviour can be an important sign that someone is struggling, and how friends, family members, and partners can help create opportunities for connection without pressure.The discussion also challenges common misconceptions about male survivors and offers a hopeful reminder that support isn't one-size-fits-all. What helps one person may not help another, and finding the right support can take time.This is a thoughtful conversation about silence, shame, resilience, and the importance of creating spaces where people feel safe enough to be heard.If this conversation resonates with you, we'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments. And if you think it could help someone else feel a little less alone, please consider sharing it. 💚To contact Tom:https://heretotalktraining.com/contact/Instagram - @tomchapman_hairhttps://linktr.ee/TomchapmanJoin our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access:Patreon: / somethingtosayYouTube membership: / @somethingtosayofficialTo follow us on social media:Instagram: / somethingtosayofficialFacebook: / somethingtosayofficial1Linkedin: / something-to-say1TikTok: / somethingtosayofficial

In this powerful conversation, Chloe from The B Brave Project, opens up about the urgent need for more honest discussions around child sexual abuse (CSA). After years of silence, she explains how shame thrives when experiences are hidden and why speaking openly is so important for healing and awareness.Chloe shares how grooming and control can look very different in every situation, often making a child feel special, chosen, and loved, making it impossible for many children to fully understand what is happening to them at the time.Reflecting on her own experience, Chloe describes how she was groomed by the taxi driver who took her to school. What began with jokes, laughter, sweets, and pocket money led to inappropriate touching, gradually escalating.This conversation highlights the importance of awareness, open communication, and helping parents understand the subtle signs of grooming so they can better protect and educate their children.Chloe is the host of The B Brave podcast series, creating space for open conversations, awareness, and healing surrounding CSA.To contact Chloe across most social media platforms: https://bit.ly/4tqIYvwTo help support her cause: https://www.gofundme.com/f/the-b-brave-projectIf this conversation resonated with you, please like, comment, and subscribe to help raise awareness and support more survivors speaking out. You van also join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access: Patreon: / somethingtosay YouTube membership: / @somethingtosayofficial To follow us on social media: Instagram: / somethingtosayofficial Facebook: / somethingtosayofficial1 Linkedin: / something-to-say1 TikTok: / somethingtosayofficialTikTok: / somethingtosayofficial

Something to Say is incredibly honoured to be joined by Anna Sonoda, a licensed clinical social worker, educator, and nationally recognised expert in child sexual abuse prevention and grooming awareness. Anna talks gives us a clearer understanding of grooming, how it happens, the warning signs to look for, and how awareness can help protect children. Anna describes how prevention starts with communication, safe environments, and informed communities. Anna also talks about the importance of listening, believing, and responding appropriately when concerns arise, and how ongoing learning is essential to strengthening safeguarding practices. This video is a MUST watch for all parents, carers, teachers and any individual or community group that works in the interests of, or works with, children and young people. To contact Anna: Instagram and Threads: @annasonodalcsw Websites: https://annasonoda.com and https://duckduckgroom.com Books: Duck Duck Groom A Guided Journal: http://bit.ly/4nneMAi Duck Duck Groom Understanding How a Child Becomes a Target: https://bit.ly/3R1DnP1 That's Weird (for children)https://bit.ly/4dptdiO Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access: Patreon: / somethingtosay YouTube membership: / @somethingtosayofficial To follow us on social media: Instagram: / somethingtosayofficial Facebook: / somethingtosayofficial1 Linkedin: / something-to-say1 TikTok: / somethingtosayofficial

Ryan was 11 years old when it first happened. Home wasn't always a safe place. His mother struggled with alcohol, and there had already been previous trauma from domestic violence. Most mornings, Ryan would climb into her bed, just to feel close to her and to feel some sense of comfort. One morning, her boyfriend was there too. When his mother got up to go to work, she left Ryan alone with him.That's when the abuse began.At the time, Ryan didn't fully understand what was happening. He knew it felt strange, even puzzling. Even more confusing, parts of it felt physically good. That's something some children can experience, and it can lead to overwhelming feelings of guilt, shame, and embarrassment. This is how child sexual abuse often goes unnoticed. This is why awareness matters.To contact Ryan on Instagram - @wryanw1973Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access:Patreon: https://patreon.com/SomethingtoSayYouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4HNNfmEdxrGiVKxGNW6zoA/joinTo follow us on social media;Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial

Jeremy Indika founder of Something to Say Official, presents his story.When Jeremy was 8 years old when his father allowed a trusted friend and colleague, to stay in their home after his parents’ divorce. The man appeared kind and respectable, gaining the family’s trust. Behind that image, he groomed and assaulted Jeremy.The process was so subtle and calculated that, even as an adult, Jeremy cannot clearly remember how it began, only that the man became familiar, trusted, and normal in his life before abusing that trust.Years later, after an attempted police prosecution, Jeremy discovered where the man lived. Searching for answers and closure, he confronted the situation himself and ended up being charged.His experience shows how abuse often hides behind trust and respectability, leaving survivors with confusion and unanswered questions long after the abuse ends.You can find Jeremy using the links below. Website: https://jeremyindika.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jeremyindikaFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/jeremyindika1LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremy-indika-31673573/X: Jeremy Indika (@jeremyindika) / XTikTok: TikTok - @jeremyindikaYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeM5j3x68j8gq3MHPSLzjmQJoin our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access:Patreon: https://patreon.com/SomethingtoSayYouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4HNNfmEdxrGiVKxGNW6zoA/joinTo follow us on social media;Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial

Elizabeth June, known as June, grew up as the daughter of a single mother. Because her mother had to work, June was often left in the care of other families. During this time, she experienced sexual abuse from older children in those households, so frequent that she began to believe such behaviour was normal.At just 12 years old, a family friend, a grown male she trusted, sexually abused when he stayed over. Two years later, at age 14, the abuse was repeated by the father of a friend, a trusted psychologist, and a church minister. Frozen in fear, June felt completely distraught and alone.Tragically, her suffering did not end there; later, she raped by a married minister, another family friend whom she had trusted.June’s story is a heart-breaking example of how abuse can come from those who are meant to protect and care for children. It highlights the urgent need for awareness, vigilance, and safe spaces for children, as well as the importance of believing survivors and providing them with support and justice.Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access:Patreon: https://patreon.com/SomethingtoSayYouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4HNNfmEdxrGiVKxGNW6zoA/joinTo follow us on social media:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficialFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial

Phillippa is an SRA (Satanic Ritual Abuse) survivor. She was a victim of child rape, torture and extreme abuse. Out of what was meant to destroy Phillippa, she survived by walking away as a teenager and speaks about finding God. In Phillippa's eyes, her faith stands as a quiet but relentless truth; even the most brutal evil cannot extinguish divine light. Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access: Patreon: https://patreon.com/SomethingtoSay YouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4HNNfmEdxrGiVKxGNW6zoA/join To follow us on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial