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MVP: Using Language to Create Your Life Part 1

Ep. 89

In this MVP (most valuable podcast) we cover the following... We've all heard "glass half full/empty" as an analogy for optimism and pessimism. But really think about it for a second. When you are looking at the glass as half-full, you have a genuinely different perspective on the world than when you are seeing it as half-empty.


There are lots of different ways that we can use language that accidentally limit our possibilities in the world. It might sound minor, but I can't stress the impact of this enough.


Empowering language is one of the master keys to creating the life you want. It can be the difference between feeling stuck and feeling motivated, between feeling victimized and feeling empowered.


In this episode, we discuss:


  • The importance of language
  • A ‘bad’ place to get started
  • 'Should’ you even listen to this part?
  • 3 intrinsic motivators and how to counteract them
  • This could ‘make you’ a bit uncomfortable
  • You mean, like, the cult of positivity?


Links:

Business Owner Hero Type Quiz: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/quiz/

The Mindset Gym: https://lucidshiftcoaching.com/the-mindset-gym


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