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How to Flip Your “Peace Switch”: The Power of the Parasympathetic

Ep. 55

Ever find yourself wishing that you could tap into a greater sense of peace and clarity?

Welcome to a captivating episode that takes you on a journey into the intricate world of the nervous system and its profound impact on our overall well-being.

Join hosts Ben and Paige as they dive into a wealth of valuable concepts and strategies. From exploring the window of tolerance to practicing the transformative Breath to Surrender technique, you'll gain practical tools to navigate the ebbs and flows of your nervous system.

Discover the power of mindfulness, grounding techniques, and the immense potential of embracing the present moment.

Explore the dynamic dance between the sympathetic (fight or flight) and parasympathetic (rest and digest) states. By understanding how these states shape your thoughts, emotions, and physiological responses, you'll learn to recognize and expand your window of tolerance, opening up new pathways to optimal well-being.

Get ready to uncover practical tools and insights to unlock a profound sense of peace, regulate your nervous system, and cultivate a greater sense of well-being and presence in your life.


  • “Very rarely are we ever being chased by saber toothed tigers nowadays, and yet, news cycles, stress cycles, all of that stuff can come and trick us into stepping into a sympathetic nervous system where we are really good at running away and saving our lives, but we're not so effective at creative brainstorming or solving problems or connecting with people.” (4:15-4:39 | Ben)
  • “It's really useful to be in the practice of noticing what's going on in your physiological state so that you can develop an awareness for when you're dysregulated and when you're not.” (16:59-17:11 | Paige)
  • “We can use the breath as a way to kind of connect with our insides, and then that can be one of the ways that we can really regulate our physiology.” (23:46-23:54 | Ben) 
  • “I like to think of groundedness as taking a step out of mind, and coming into body, and noticing a sense of connection to the Earth.” (25:37-25:47 | Paige)
  • “Too much future focus can create anxiety and too much past focus can create depression. And so one of the exit strategies from either of those two states is to come into the present moment.” (26:27-26:39 | Paige)
  • “All of our physical power in the world comes from our connection to the Earth.” (27:19-27:22 | Ben) 


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